Yeah man i know... It can be a sensitive issue...
But really as a white dude im not sure it could be possible to be more "down with the brown" My best friend is a brown guy and most of my friends in general seem to be brown
Ive thought about learning punjabi on more then one occasion to... It would certanly be useful in dealing with the family etc.. The grandparents it seems like are the ones that have a issue with it ive found, the people who were born here or have been here for 30 years really dont seem to care. But every family is differnt of course