Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

Matthew Lombardi 18

On a "Date"

Recommended Posts

But I do feel bad about it. I felt like I made a genuine effort to get to know her more and tried to push aside the misleading pictures.

I just couldn't do it :/

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's locked. Got taken over. :rolleyes:

Back on topic: You gave it a shot and it didn't work. Oh well... You move on. Lotsa sexy ladies out there. :towel:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Not going to post names, but a good handful. If discussion ends up going on here please keep it on track and civilized.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

wow, you don't give me much credit, huh?

I meant "Need an analysis of a potential date", not "Meeting a (very) insecure girl from online"

edit: also, can a mod post who all got a suspension from that other thread lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Pretty late update - I think I can conclude that we have no chemistry. :/

damn, this thing is not saving the stuff that I've typed out. I added in some details but it didn't save at all. Retarded.

Edit: I'll try again since the above got saved.

Our shared interests are razor thin, which might not be a problem if either of us were more open to treading new territory. But her online personality differs from her offline one, less playful and more mundane. And I'm not a guy that wanted to take initiative too much because I didn't want to come across as bossy (a fault of mine). At this stage, I just don't see us connecting, no matter how hard we try. We are better off as friends/close friends.

It's such a damn disappointment considering how much time we've spent texting to each other (a lot!) and two dates.

Sigh.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Just talk to them like...wait for it... human beings.

Be fun, be outgoing, be yourself and above all else. Be a gentleman. Open doors, be polite etc. Expect the same respectful behavior in return (appreciation for said door openings etc). If she isn't reciprocating the respect, walk away ( no matter how hot).

This is not rocket dentistry folks. There's no magical "game" or "mad lady skillzzz" unless you're just aiming for boning floozies (can be fun but a largely hollow process...). If that's your goal I'm sure you can find all sorts of info on how to trick women to play with your twig and berries. Otherwise it's pretty straightforward.

Honesty, respect, reciprocity, communication, chemistry. If they're not there move on until you find it.

Perhaps most importantly be honest with yourself what YOU want. So much misery is caused by people not being honest with themselves and blaming it on the other person.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Update:

(...Continued from locked thread)

I ended up meeting her and went on a couple of dates with her!

So, she's a lot more comfortable with meeting up now that we got over the hump. She isn't as hideous as she said she was - she was just really really insecure.

She's a nice girl. We asked each other to be upfront with each other and we did. We basically asked each other "invasive" questions not to look for suspicious answers but to gain trust with each other. Worked like a charm. She felt like she had no more things to hide from me and neither did I.

We've visited each other's place once now.

Lots of phone calls + texts.

I just know she's crazy about me and I really like her back. We're probably going to get serious from here on in.

Thanks for everyone's help in the other thread which got unfortunately locked.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

glad to hear it man, I know I was being a bit facetious in that thread but I really was pulling for you guys to figure it out

though to be honest I am going to miss the constant first-date-threads followed by cdc drama lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You said you had no more things to hide from her...

... So you told her you got relationship advice from an only hockey forum?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I never gave out her name, my location, her location and any of the details. She lives in a small town and isn't into watching sports. I don't see what the problem is.

Like I said, I wasn't sure about what to do.

I WAS upfront with her. I told her that I wasn't sure why she was so initially unwilling to meet (despite the fact that everything else suggested she was interested) but that I was glad that she took the gamble on me. I told her how I felt and she confirmed to me (afterward) that it would have been bad had I walked away from the situation.

Not sure what you're trying to say here.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

your phone doesn't have the capability of writing colons or parentheses?

sounds like a cheap ass phone, and you should see mine

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    No registered users viewing this page.