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#31 kazin!

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Posted 06 July 2012 - 02:26 PM

This thread is hilarious. I recently broke out of the friendzone with a girl I've been really good friends with for years. It wasn't intentional per se, I valued our friendship enough to not risk messing it up by pursuing anything more than that. In her words..."Act like an asshole for 2 years. Date other ppl but text everyday. 3rd year, hang out w/ her and drink together a lot. Flirt while drinking and deny liking her at all costs. Wait for her to get a bf, leave the country. Then meet her in a foreign one and be ridiculously aggressive. Bam. In 4 years, you'll have her hahah"

The relationship has been great just because we know each other so well. To the tough guys saying breaking the friendzone is immature, you clearly don't have the stones for someone you think is a quality gal. Instead you'll continue slaying sewer rats at your local club. Enjoy!
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Posted 06 July 2012 - 03:35 PM

The world abounds in (rhymes with punt) of every kind, includin' hers."


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well I'm sorry that gd is soo perfect


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Posted 06 July 2012 - 06:05 PM

I don't disagree with that; a friendship can definitely evolve into a relationship over time. However, trying to force that change isn't healthy. Playing mind games and implementing manipulation tactics isn't a fair thing to do to a friend. You're taking advantage of her trust. I agree with Malaria, the very concept of getting out of a 'friendzone' shows immaturity.


No, what you say is reasonable.
However, should you supress your feelings to maintain a friendship?
I'm not advocating playing mind games, just changing your behaviour so the woman in question sees you differently, same as if you went on a diet or renewed your wardrobe.
I think this is the same asking a girl out who thinks you're just friends; these strategies are just to make you seem more attractive and confident.
Guys who are in the friendzone (I use that term both because I am immature and because I don't have a better one) are generally nice guys.

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Posted 06 July 2012 - 07:39 PM

BE (you should NOT have to act very much) confident, SET YOUR BOUNDARIES/ EXPECTATIONS for what you want the relationship to be, then grow a pair and let her know in person but MAKE SURE that you'd be fine if you guys didn't just stay friends (e.g. if you guys fell apart after telling her b/c it could happen). Don't pressure her or be a little nag if you get turned down, for whatever reason.

More importantly try to have your own/ other options, not just to provoke jealousy but to genuinely have things going on in your life, which could also help. Develop your own style and live/ dress in it (given that it looks nice :P).

Have your own thing, otherwise don't really even bother to be in a relationship (or leave that friend zone), b/c that relationship could very easily become that of a parasite and a host (you'd just be clinging to them, looking to be fulfilled by them yet you remain devoid of having your own personality and you're draining the life/ energy out of them).

As powerful as the Jealousy card is, it's a low, low, LOW maneuver. There's as big a chance of making them despise you for doing that as there is a chance of "succeeding". Sure, it's good to make them think, "man he's awesome, why did I let him go?" by genuinely being an awesome, confident man, but don't take your front or revenge "tactics" too far, otherwise even if they did start to like you they could lose their feelings for good (they could start to develop feelings for others if you treat them badly or ignore them for too long, then you'd lose out again).

What's worse, if you play that card by using your relationship with someone else to get back at the person who didn't give you a chance, you'd be hurting two people at the same time. Then, you'd be lucky to even be considered for the friend zone and not tossed in the scum bin.

Edited by MessiNacity10, 06 July 2012 - 07:42 PM.

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Posted 06 July 2012 - 08:20 PM

Friend zone, lol.
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Posted 06 July 2012 - 08:22 PM

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Buddy I called this EXACT situtation on here two years ago and was flamed, so I guess I have a bit of hockey knowledge, not to mention the 4 years I played in the OHL idiot.


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Posted 06 July 2012 - 08:23 PM

ITT thread:


Wow.

Buddy I called this EXACT situtation on here two years ago and was flamed, so I guess I have a bit of hockey knowledge, not to mention the 4 years I played in the OHL idiot.


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Puberty, life, movie theaters, movie theaters that frown upon you pulling it out, movie theaters that frown upon you pulling it out during a children's movie, Toy Story 3, Pixar, who ever decided to make Woody so damn attractive, a job, his mothers basement, being 40, being 40 five years ago, dogs who can out run him, all dogs, the Olympic committee, Truth, Fact, Honesty, Logic, Newsflash, a father figure who was there to see him learn to ride his first bike, bikes,

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Posted 06 July 2012 - 08:38 PM

No, what you say is reasonable.
However, should you supress your feelings to maintain a friendship?
I'm not advocating playing mind games, just changing your behaviour so the woman in question sees you differently, same as if you went on a diet or renewed your wardrobe.
I think this is the same asking a girl out who thinks you're just friends; these strategies are just to make you seem more attractive and confident.
Guys who are in the friendzone (I use that term both because I am immature and because I don't have a better one) are generally nice guys.


.........depending on how much you care about the friendship, yes? You realize there are TONS of eligible girls out there right? Not all could be the same friend to you as she is. You're more likely to find a new girl to game on than a new good friend.
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Posted 07 July 2012 - 01:37 AM

If you're already friends it is assumed you enjoy being with the person. The next step is simple.
If you are a girl: Become attractive.
If you are a boy: Become attractive and/or rich.

You're welcome for the advice.


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Posted 07 July 2012 - 05:51 AM

Really? Isn't the friend zone a myth people use to cope when someone they really want rejects them?

Edited by The Wizard of AZ, 07 July 2012 - 05:53 AM.

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Posted 07 July 2012 - 09:26 PM

Really? Isn't the friend zone a myth people use to cope when someone they really want rejects them?


You like a woman, but you don't reveal your feelings. She says something along the lines of "you're such a good friend" or (if she's 14) "we're best friends forever".

You have been "friendzoned": preemptively classified by said woman as a just a friend.

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Posted 08 July 2012 - 10:31 AM

Because women never play mind games and manipulate men... and what's wrong with being immature, when you're young, and you know, immature?

That's great for when you're young, and can claim ignorance to responsibility for playing these childish games, but most people knew from a much younger age that's not how you want to start a relationship off, and that's not part of the golden rule as how you would want to be treated yourself. But whatever kids, go ahead and dig your own grave and unnecessarily complicate a relationship with this dishonesty and immaturity.

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Posted 08 July 2012 - 11:09 AM

My advice: don't do it. it's not worth it. you're being oblivious to the reason why you two were friends in the first place. why would you ever want to get rid of that.
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Posted 08 July 2012 - 03:36 PM

My advice: don't do it. it's not worth it. you're being oblivious to the reason why you two were friends in the first place. why would you ever want to get rid of that.


It is worth it ;).
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Posted 08 July 2012 - 03:38 PM

Friendzones are for the weak, if you really like the person why pretend there is a barrier?

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Posted 08 July 2012 - 03:48 PM

Love the 15/16/17 year olds giving advice about how to become 'un-friend-zoned' and completely ignoring the life experience of those who have been there and come through it.....some successfully, some not. I remember being 15/16/17 and thinking I knew it all too. Unfortunately, life will have to bite a few of them pretty hard in the ass before they get 'it'.

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Posted 08 July 2012 - 06:40 PM

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