TOMapleLaughs Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Better no pic than fake pic, imo. But not much. ie. Yes, you're not lying about your appearance, but you're also wasting my time. This girl sounds like she has issues to work out for herself before she can be truly loved. Really insecure people can be a real nightmare until they finally break out of their shell. If i were you i'd keep her on the sidelines until she gives you a picture at least. That's a good indication that she might be on the verge of a breakthrough. If she really is 'the one' then why rush it, right? It's a gamble to wait on someone that long though. It always is. That's why you play the field regardless at this point. btw. The longer this procedure trails on, the more her heart will be broken if you call it off first. Hey i bet this doesn't help a bit and if my wife saw this she'd kill me, but communication is a two-way street. She has your picture, but you don't have hers? wtf? SEE ya! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canuckerbird Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 In my experience, girls with low self esteem generally end up with Arrested Development. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew Lombardi 18 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Share Posted August 31, 2012 Better no pic than fake pic, imo. But not much. ie. Yes, you're not lying about your appearance, but you're also wasting my time. This girl sounds like she has issues to work out for herself before she can be truly loved. Really insecure people can be a real nightmare until they finally break out of their shell. If i were you i'd keep her on the sidelines until she gives you a picture at least. That's a good indication that she might be on the verge of a breakthrough. If she really is 'the one' then why rush it, right? It's a gamble to wait on someone that long though. It always is. That's why you play the field regardless at this point. btw. The longer this procedure trails on, the more her heart will be broken if you call it off first. Hey i bet this doesn't help a bit and if my wife saw this she'd kill me, but communication is a two-way street. She has your picture, but you don't have hers? wtf? SEE ya! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMapleLaughs Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 My favorite self-description from online dating... "You should know that i have brain cancer and use a cane." Fuuuuuu... So this definitely won't be long term then. And we can watch House together. (actually this was well before House, and i sure as frack didn't say that) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Opmac Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Find out where she works, goes to school, or shop and just stalk her? I don't know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew Lombardi 18 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Share Posted August 31, 2012 Find out where she works, goes to school, or shop and just stalk her? I don't know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Garrison Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 I actually can answer almost all of those, aside from shop, but I don't want to be a creeper. Heh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhinogator Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 find her facebook. use any means necessary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GodzillaDeuce Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 In my experience, girls with low self esteem generally end up with Arrested Development. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virt 'n Kass Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Tell her this: is your ex. Set the bar super low for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil_314 Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 The problem is... I want to meet her - but she doesn't want to meet me, despite her words (verbally + text) that she really wants to. She says she's deeply afraid of rejection. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hudson bay rules Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 I met a girl similar to what you describe. She smelled funny when we finally got together. Didn't last to a second date. LOL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMapleLaughs Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Nah, i've done some stalking. They generally don't like it. Even when you surprise them with flowers at work. Hahaha! Embarrassed enough yet? Here's my number so you can call me. Whaddaya mean you want nothing to do with me now? Aw, too bad. Favorite online dismissal i've performed: 'My pic is displayed, babe, but where's yours?' 'Not sure if i want to show it to you.' 'Aw, c'mon, babe. You sure sound cute over the keyboard.' 'lol okay.' she emails it. She's a bbw. 'k' She immediately deletes me from her contact list. Cold. Just cold. Hey my buddy ended up blind-dating a midget, so i recommend pic first, preferably full-body, before meeting. Otherwise that girl could be a bbw (whatever, bbw's are fine, i was just kidding), a midget or, god-forbid, a freakin' guy, dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew Lombardi 18 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Share Posted August 31, 2012 To late for that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WillyFox Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 She is big boned you into that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nux4lyfe Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Straight up, why would anyone hook up with someone with out seeing their pic?..We live in a world where technology is pretty much everything, you have no reason not to send or receive pics..or a link to a FB page..no matter what anyone says, Looks do matter...you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew Lombardi 18 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Share Posted August 31, 2012 Wait. How do you know she doesn't want to meet you when her words (all that you know her by) indicate that she DOES want to? (I'm sure you haven't revealed everything in this thread). Anyways, it sounds like she keeps bringing up meeting with you because she's got low self-esteem like you said, and wants to meet you and will expect you to make the move. Now question is, why not negotiate with her and settle things on a real-life meet up? She keeps saying she wants to meet, so (I hate cliches but man up! and) take her for her word! By the way, OP I'm surprised that, since you've met a girl in real life before you would choose to go back to online dating? It's just my opinion but through meeting the previous girl in person I'm sure that your social skills must have improved, and by meeting in person it helps to skip the whole "talking too much online then getting awkward when you first meet in person" phase that happens upon initial meeting. In short I don't think you should retreat back to using this method of meeting (unless you have really low self-esteem as well, in which case online messaging may work best). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharpshooter Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Tell her this: is your ex. Set the bar super low for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GodzillaDeuce Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 If you're not gonna helpfully contribute, why bother posting? Go make your own thread to entertain yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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