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#211 Stefan

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:18 PM

Sorry, did you have a good one about bertuzzibabe perpetually freaking out on the world?
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:20 PM

Assumed you were middle aged because of how up tight you are. Relax. It's an internet forum.
No. Seriously. Relax. Get out, get some fresh air.
I think having women chasing me grants me the title of knowing what women want. You think it's easy to sleep with attractive women? No. It took time. I figured out what they wanted, and I can assure you it wasn't me being a nice, gentle loser.
If I want to get married to a slightly overweight chick with no prospects I'll try your approach though. Thanks.


PS. It's because every single one of your posts has you being in an argument with someone.


Then you'd best review my post history. When I attempt to have a "discussion" somehow it always ends up being called an 'argument'. On the other hand........when you guys do it, it gets to be called a discussion, a debate....a vociferous opposition of viewpoints. Inevitably someone goes for the sexist or personal shot and oh no, if there's any response to it........it has now become an 'argument'. Wow, what a win/win, lose/lose situation. If you want an all male board, petition the powers that be but then who could you take your testosterone out on when you need a whipping boy....errrr.......woman.......right?

You seem to forget that I've been familiar with your account since you registered here........history speaks..and perhaps you all should know that the tone of response in some of my posts to specific users is predicated upon previous history......years of history.........some of it quite nasty.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:24 PM

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Then you'd best review my post history.When I attempt to have a "discussion" somehow it always ends up being called an 'argument'. On the other hand........when you guys do it, it gets to be called a discussion, a debate....a vociferous opposition of viewpoints. Inevitably someone goes for the sexist or personal shot and oh no, if there's any response to it........it has now become an 'argument'. Wow, what a win/win, lose/lose situation. If you want an all male board, petition the powers that be but then who could you take your testosterone out on when you need a whipping boy....errrr.......woman.......right?

You seem to forget that I've been familiar with your account since you registered here........history speaks..and perhaps you all should know that the tone of response in some of my posts to specific users is predicated upon previous history......years of history.........some of it quite nasty.

I couldn't even get through this. You just get so worked up,
You're so defensive in your "discussions". I mean. Even when buddy, satan or whatever he likes to be called said one little thing and you interpreted it entirely wrong.
And some other guy used a relax gif and you're like "OH SO YEAH YOU JUST WANT ME TO BE A WOMAN AND GO IN THE KITCHEN AND DO THE DISHES AND BE A LITTLE CUTIE AND BAKE A PIE"
and he was like, uhhh, what?
You NEED TO RELAX. PLEASE.
Then your e-crush comes in and has to defend you, and every thread you're apart of goes to crap.

Yes. When I was 21 I came on here when I was drunk and acted like a moron.
Again. It's a forum. Who cares. You take this way too seriously. I understand people enjoy making friends online and what not, but stop acting like it's your home. Christ.

Oh. And just because you have a pre-determined "tone" with me, doesn't make you right. I know what women want a hell of a lot more than you.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:25 PM

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Assumed you were middle aged because of how up tight you are. Relax. It's an internet forum.
No. Seriously. Relax. Get out, get some fresh air.
I think having women chasing me grants me the title of knowing what women want. You think it's easy to sleep with attractive women? No. It took time. I figured out what they wanted, and I can assure you it wasn't me being a nice, gentle loser.
If I want to get married to a slightly overweight chick with no prospects I'll try your approach though. Thanks.


PS. It's because every single one of your posts has you being in an argument with someone.



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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:26 PM

I couldn't even get through this. You just get so worked up,
You're so defensive in your "discussions". I mean. Even when buddy, satan or whatever he likes to be called said one little thing and you interpreted it entirely wrong.
And some other guy used a relax gif and you're like "OH SO YEAH YOU JUST WANT ME TO BE A WOMAN AND GO IN THE KITCHEN AND DO THE DISHES AND BE A LITTLE CUTIE AND BAKE A PIE"
and he was like, uhhh, what?
You NEED TO RELAX. PLEASE.
Then your e-crush comes in and has to defend you, and every thread you're apart of goes to crap.

Yes. When I was 21 I came on here when I was drunk and acted like a moron.
Again. It's a forum. Who cares. You take this way too seriously. I understand people enjoy making friends online and what not, but stop acting like it's your home. Christ.

Oh. And just because you have a pre-determined "tone" with me, doesn't make you right. I know what women want a hell of a lot more than you.


Your level of obtuseness is only outranked by the deliberateness of it.

Edited by Bertuzzi Babe, 02 September 2012 - 02:39 PM.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:26 PM

Even when buddy, satan or whatever he likes to be called said one little thing and you interpreted it entirely wrong



Update

He attacked her. She replied with something humorous and friendly and then he just kept pushing.

Wake up
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:29 PM

Well, he goes overboard too.
Maybe I missed it, sorry.
Other dude told her to relax and she went all psycho.
Anyways, seriously.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:30 PM

How about this. You said your piece, I said mine, it's all good.
This thread should die, or go back on topic.
OP, you should ditch the girl as nicely as possible and look somewhere else.
Baggage sucks. Even if you don't care about looks, she's got some deep down issues so she clearly isn't a good catch.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:30 PM

Well, he goes overboard too.
Maybe I missed it, sorry.
Other dude told her to relax and she went all psycho.
Anyways, seriously.


:)

Other dude was still walking a fine line


He used the 'rustle you jimmies' term. BB's 'jimmies weren't rustled' she was simply giving her opinion. It seems all too often men can't handle it when a woman makes a statement.
That's how I read that situation.


I applaud you for making every effort to cool things down. :)

Edited by Shift-4, 02 September 2012 - 02:37 PM.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:32 PM

Really?

Oh.
Sarcasm.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:41 PM

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OK guys, argument ends here. Back to posting on topic please....
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 02:50 PM

Glad OP moved on

looking forward to his next dating thread, turned into CDC drama
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 03:31 PM

cdc needs more drama. too bad it wasn't interesting drama.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 03:43 PM

I finally got through 7 pages of bull and now I can't even remember what the OP's issue really was.

Well, I really hope he figures it out. *shrugs*
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 03:58 PM

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OK guys, argument ends here. Back to posting on topic please....


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Posted 02 September 2012 - 03:59 PM

Regardless of how this topic has gone. I'm going to throw it out there.

I met my GF online when I was 16 ( It was over a year before we met in person though ) I'm now 21 and we're still together. ( We did have a few splits though for a while, distance does that )

I guess my point is...Is that it CAN work. It's just not for everyone.

Edit: Also, not to seem like a dick or anything, but lots of people that meet online like this don't have a ton of self confidence. That's why they meet people online in the first place.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:00 PM

I finally got through 7 pages of bull and now I can't even remember what the OP's issue really was.

Well, I really hope he figures it out. *shrugs*


Well you should definitely keep that intellectual firepower holstered then, eh?
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:04 PM

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Well you should definitely keep that intellectual firepower holstered then, eh?


Oh, you really got me there. You're so clever.

And let me guess, Bertuzzi Babe plus 1'd you, eh? Two peas in a pod.

Anyway, I think if the OP really cares for this girl, despite her being secretive about certain things, or wanting to wait to show a picture of herself, I think he should give her some time. There could be plenty of legit reasons why she's waiting. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:09 PM

Interesting progression in this thread. We all appear to be truly bored. Imagine what it's going to be like during another lengthly lockout.

Is the OP even hanging around this thread anymore?
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:17 PM

Oh, you really got me there. You're so clever.

And let me guess, Bertuzzi Babe plus 1'd you, eh? Two peas in a pod.

Anyway, I think if the OP really cares for this girl, despite her being secretive about certain things, or wanting to wait to show a picture of herself, I think he should give her some time. There could be plenty of legit reasons why she's waiting. Give her the benefit of the doubt.


So? Sharp saved me from having to type it out is all. And it's a pretty nice pod, actually.


Speaking of peas...........pods.......potatoes......potahtoes........

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:20 PM

Interesting progression in this thread. We all appear to be truly bored. Imagine what it's going to be like during another lengthly lockout.

Is the OP even hanging around this thread anymore?


As of 1:42 this morning.........

Wow, this thread keeps growing.

I would like to thank everyone so far for participating. It has been enlightening and entertaining at the same time. I've read every single post, including a few more GodDeuce's posts...

A lot of people have provided some really interesting takes on this situation and I don't disagree with all of them, at least not all at the same time.

I am right now leaning on the idea of finding another girl, but I feel absolutely horrible because of it. I have managed to secure a picture of her and IMO, she's not bad looking. However, her lack of confidence in herself is a current problem, even if she is being completely honest with me. I feel right now that even though she trusts me I am unworthy of her trust because I am currently turned off by her low self-esteem. I can see the writing on the wall. No matter how much I try to make her happy, she'll never really be happy. I can't tell her how she should feel. She needs to feel that way and I, as a person, can only do so much. I can see it getting old.

All I can do is be there for her, but I think waiting till November, as mentioned by others, is a bit too long just to "meet". A meet only takes like 5 mins but she's not comfortable with herself as she is. That bothers me, even though I say.. "take your time". That kind of mistrust is extremely hard to break. I'm not ready to settle down just yet. I'm looking for a serious relationship though.

As many posters have pointed out, the longer it drags out, the harder it hits her. There's just no easy way of doing it. UGH.


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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:29 PM

OP, did you smash her yet?
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:29 PM

This thread was well worth the read.
Kudos to all of those involved in the discussion.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:31 PM

OP, did you smash her yet?


Yeah, OP, it seems Patchey wants to know.......

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:34 PM

Yeah, OP, it seems Patchey wants to know.......

Why does it matter who wants to know? You make things very personal, did you know that?

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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:38 PM

Why does it matter who wants to know? You make things very personal, did you know that?


Dupe accounts have a way of doing that to me. Go figure.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:39 PM

Wow, this thread keeps growing.

I would like to thank everyone so far for participating. It has been enlightening and entertaining at the same time. I've read every single post, including a few more GodDeuce's posts...

A lot of people have provided some really interesting takes on this situation and I don't disagree with all of them, at least not all at the same time.

I am right now leaning on the idea of finding another girl, but I feel absolutely horrible because of it. I have managed to secure a picture of her and IMO, she's not bad looking. However, her lack of confidence in herself is a current problem, even if she is being completely honest with me. I feel right now that even though she trusts me I am unworthy of her trust because I am currently turned off by her low self-esteem. I can see the writing on the wall. No matter how much I try to make her happy, she'll never really be happy. I can't tell her how she should feel. She needs to feel that way and I, as a person, can only do so much. I can see it getting old.

All I can do is be there for her, but I think waiting till November, as mentioned by others, is a bit too long just to "meet". A meet only takes like 5 mins but she's not comfortable with herself as she is. That bothers me, even though I say.. "take your time". That kind of mistrust is extremely hard to break. I'm not ready to settle down just yet. I'm looking for a serious relationship though.

As many posters have pointed out, the longer it drags out, the harder it hits her. There's just no easy way of doing it. UGH.


Didn't see this response originally and after reading it, I do agree with you that dating her would probably not be a good thing. She apparently has trust/self esteem issues and like another poster mentioned, you'd just be spending all of your time reassuring her and letting her know she can trust you. Take it from me, that is not the way to have a happy/successful relationship.

And even though it's going to CRUSH her, it really will, you need to tell her immediately that you only want to be friends. Leading her on is only going to cause more issues/sadness for her in the long run.

Good luck. I sincerely mean that.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:45 PM

Dupe accounts have a way of doing that to me. Go figure.

Oh, I was talking more about you in this thread in general. Everything is so personal to you.
Relax bro
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:47 PM

Two weeks right? Three now? If a person gets crushed by a dismissal after that short a time, then he/she is a psycho, and you're doing yourself a favour.

Called it. She needs to work things out for herself before she should be heading into a relationship. You could tell her that, but her deflector shields will be up. You pig you.
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Posted 02 September 2012 - 04:48 PM

Oh, I was talking more about you in this thread in general. Everything is so personal to you.
Relax bro


Uh huh, ok....
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