no no, shes calling my other friend that, even though they never met.
she also tells me that I will never do better with any girl and if i do apply things to like generally adding girls on facebook/msn, she say she'll always leave. So far I been quite compliant with all her rules. Even with getting a number, email, facebook from a girl for school related stuff I would need permission.
Thing is I really do love her and wish she would see it my way, but I'm always wrong.
I really have to echo what lots of people are saying in here. A little insight on where my comments are coming from...my wife and I have been married three and a half years (I just turned 30) and have been together for just short of 11 years. We were great friends through highschool and didn't start dating until the summer after she graduated. Our relationship is, and always will be based on trust and faith in eachother. I chose to ask her to marry me in large part because I know I can unconditionally trust her. (nevermind the facts that a: she's my best friend with whom I can talk about ALL things, b: we have loads of fun together, and c: I think she's incredibly beautiful, etcetera...) and I know that trust is recriprocated.
I have many female friends, some I met back in highschool, some at work afterwards. I keep in touch with them on a regular basis because they're great people. She has many male friends for the same reasons. Furthermore, one of her female friends that she met while at University will call/text me to talk about work or personal problems and vice versa (we have similar work; retail sales/management and have lots of common experience to help eachother out, even if to just be a soundboard.) My wife doesn't mind this because both of us try to bring people into our lives that we can not only enjoy having around, but trust. She's been away with some of her male friends for weekend camping trips while I've worked and I know that I can trust her AND her friends. There has also been an instance where one of her male friends stuck up for her while they were out camping without me because a drunk guy was being incredibly vulgar
to her in another language thinking my wife wouldn't understand by kicking him out of their campsite. (when both my wife and her friend understood what was being said.) I know that I don't need to worry about my wife because a: she can handle herself well and b: chooses to be around people who are good people.
I can't emphasize enough how important trust is in a relationship for it to last. IMHO if she trusts you, she should be willing to listen to your reasons for your actions and consider that you just might, MAYBE, be right, for example, in picking up a stranded drunk friend to make sure she made it home safe.
I had to learn the hard way a few times with a couple previous girlfriends who had cheated on me. Now, I was fortunate enough to have these experiences while still in highschool before there was marriage or children even remotely in the picture, some of my close friends have had to go through that after there are children and marriage involved, and believe me it can get incredibly ugly and nasty. I found it funny that the girlfriends who tried to "controll" or "change" me were the ones who I could trust the least. In fact, I've found that with people in general will behave that way. (ie: those who constantly spout off about being full of integrity tend to be the types who will be the first to dip their hand into your wallet when you're not looking.)
With her comments on "you'll never do better with anyone else so you may as well stay with me"... make me agree with the comments regarding her being insecure. I remember one job I used to have that thankfully I left. I was constantly told while working there "we're the best game in town, you'll never find a better retail job than this one, the grass may SEEM greener on the other side but trust me it's not, so don't bother looking..." Turns out after leaving for a different, yet similar job I had less stress, less scrutiny on pointless statistics, more flexability in the scope of my duties, better pay, and a better boss. (Who, coincidentally never mentioned a word about not being able to find a better job elsewhere)
You love her, I believe that, but does she love you? Unrequited love is a bitch, and from the sounds of it there may be a problem here with that. Remember, it's one thing to SAY that you love a person, however your actions towards that individual will show weather or not you're being honest with that statement. Same with someone preaching about their honesty and integrity only to steal from you at the first opportunity. I feel that if she loves you back (a MAJOR part of any long term relationship) she should support you and trust you, which means she should also be secure enough to allow you to be friends with whoever your choose. If you both have similar (not nescessarily identical) values, she would almost by default like whoever you choose to be friends with, and vice versa.