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#31 TowelPower12

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Posted 11 October 2012 - 09:43 PM

this just shows that trying to ignore bullies doesn't work, i know people try to tell kids to just ignore bullies but sorry that's not a solution. this girl changed school multiple times and tried to put it behind her but the problem kept following her, the way this idiotic generation of kids is you pretty much have to beat the person who's bullying you's face in to get them to stop.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 09:44 PM

that's fracked. blaming her for her crapty parents is fracked.

i usually don't read these threads but this is fracked. what the hell is wrong with people.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 09:45 PM

Really sad story. I hope this can stop others from sharing the same fate. RIP
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 09:46 PM

Not everyone has parents who are willing to help unfortunately. Most troubled teens especially young ones turn to alcohol and drugs to deal with their garbage, again another unfortunate thing. Also many teens want to feel liked and want to have friends...I don't know why she kept ones like that on FB but high school is a big popularity contest and I imagine she just wanted to feel like she had friends and wasn't alone.

this is true. My gf was a preteen when her dad died, and what did her mom decide to do? Buy her alcohol. Kick her out of the house for days for flings. Overall just abandon all parental responsibilities. My gf's had a tough go of things since, depresion and otherwise, but I'm very thankful that nearly 10 years later she's survived through it all and has many positive asperations for her life. Things could have (and frankly I wonder how they didn't) gone worse for her.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:07 PM

As someone who works with youth regularly, I see many instances of bullying, coercion, depression, and the like, and this story really hits home for me. I compare Amanda with the kids that I counsel, and it breaks my heart to imagine any of them going through things like this. It makes me want to be a better mentor, and to take my job even more seriously.

My prayers go out to Amanda's family, and to all the young people going through bullying and depression.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:23 PM

http://raysof-light....anda-todd#notes

I thought this was a really well - written and different perspective on the whole issue here.

Extremely saddened by this. RIP Amanda.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:25 PM

If you see bullying do your best to be a part of the solution.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:26 PM

"depression" is such a catch all
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:37 PM

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Edited by TowelPower12, 14 October 2012 - 05:56 PM.

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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:40 PM

Such a waste of a young life....as all young life cut short is.

If this teaches anyone something, it's that cyber-bullying/stalking/threatening/blackmailing is real and it has real consequences.

If you have younger brothers or sisters or friends, maybe just ask them if they're ok or if they've ever had any problems on the net, and if they have or ever do, they can come to you, at least.....i dunno, just a suggestion, with respects to wishing Amanda had someone who she could turn to who took her seriously enough to help.

Poor thing.....she deserved better.


Edited by Sharpshooter, 11 October 2012 - 10:44 PM.

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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:42 PM

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i was suicidal during high school years due to bullying, i can understand this situation. the main thing that prevented me from doing the deed is that i didn't want my parents to be heartbroken because like the saying goes "no parent should outlive their children", looking back i am glad i never did it and even though i kept the bullying problem mainly to myself and never really seeked help from others i would suggest that its best to seek out some help when you're struggling, there are people who care.

rest in peace amanda, condolences to her family.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:45 PM

this just shows that trying to ignore bullies doesn't work, i know people try to tell kids to just ignore bullies but sorry that's not a solution. this girl changed school multiple times and tried to put it behind her but the problem kept following her, the way this idiotic generation of kids is you pretty much have to beat the person who's bullying you's face in to get them to stop.


ESPECIALLY if you sleep with their boyfriends on the week they happen to be on vacation
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:46 PM

i was suicidal during high school years due to bullying, i can understand this situation. the main thing that prevented me from doing the deed is that i didn't want my parents to be heartbroken because like the saying goes "no parent should outlive their children", looking back i am glad i never did it and even though i kept the bullying problem mainly to myself and never really seeked help from others i would suggest that its best to seek out some help when you're struggling, there are people who care.

rest in peace amanda, condolences to her family.



Takes a lot of guts to say that.

Glad to still have you around.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:53 PM

I don't know if any of you have heard yet but my football team is hosting a memorial game dedicated to her. Our whole team is taking pledges to donate to Crisis Intervention & Suicide Prevention Centre of British Columbia. Meadow Ridge Knights vs North Langley Bears. Should be a pretty intense game. Aparentely almost 200 people are coming. The reason I mention this is because I know its a random plug kinda but if you do have spare money, donating to this charity is a good cause. http://www.canadahel...?CharityID=3363
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:54 PM

Takes a lot of guts to say that.

Glad to still have you around.


thanks. its too bad nobody reached out to this girl, our society's views today are too clouded by materialistic things and popularity contests - none of that means anything because it can be replaced. life can't and its too precious.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:58 PM

Suicide is'nt painless when you leave everyone in pain .

R.I.P Amanda .
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 10:58 PM

ESPECIALLY if you sleep with their boyfriends on the week they happen to be on vacation


not her fault that the guy was a f-ing douche bag and told her he was single then did a hit it and quit it on her
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 11:11 PM

The main thing that got me through highschool is remembering that it's temporary. I really wish I could convey to these kids how insignificant and petty everything's going to seem when they look back on their teenage years later in life. Yes, even bullying. As much as it sucked at the time, now I look back at it and roll my eyes and think about what idiots those kids were and how stupid the reasons for bullying were.

That being said, when I was a teenager I had the luxury of going home to a safe place and leaving it all behind at school. Cyber-bullies now invade that home environment so there's no safe place anymore. I can't imagine what that's like.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 11:11 PM

This song was written for those who have experienced loss due to suicide. Get's me every time:


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Posted 11 October 2012 - 11:21 PM

not her fault that the guy was a f-ing douche bag and told her he was single then did a hit it and quit it on her


4:40 of the video. "then he said 'come over my gf's on vacation'"
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 11:30 PM

4:40 of the video. "then he said 'come over my gf's on vacation'"


Who the frack cares at this point?? Talk about not seeing the forest for the trees.

You win the argument ok? She's dead. Let's argue about poor decisions she made cause that's what's important. :rolleyes:
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 11:37 PM

I was also considered someone that got bullied. Since I was 9. At the age of the 10 I was beaten up behind the school yard. And yes, as someone else said, going up to the bully and telling them to stop" is not the best of choice, because they will literally beat you up on the spot. IF I see those bullies today, things will get messy.
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Posted 11 October 2012 - 11:39 PM

R.I.P.

Such a tragic event, but it's good that this is being made public. This kind of stuff is happening far too much and it needs to be addressed on a larger scale. This is one major problem with social media, as there is no more safety and security for people anywhere and the potential for tragic events such as these goes up tremendously.
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Posted 12 October 2012 - 12:17 AM

4:40 of the video. "then he said 'come over my gf's on vacation'"


You're joking, right? This has to be a ridiculously desperate troll attempt.

She may have exercised some bad judgement, no one is questioning that. However, can you not understand the vulnerable place she was in, that she honestly believed this guy had good intentions? Perhaps you've always felt very loved, but not everyone is given that benefit. And when you don't feel loved, as this girl didn't, you search for it, often in self-destructive ways.

I work with high school kids almost every day and I hear what some of you are saying about schools not doing enough. When I was a teenager it worked the same way, turn a blind a eye. Now that I have a chance to make a difference, I will do my best. There are some that will try. It's hard though, to be honest, because it's almost always impossible to deal with the real problems, whatever they may be (depression, bad home life, bullying outside of school/classroom). The support structure needs to be bigger than just schools, it has to include the parents and community. So to that end, it's good to see that some of you are involved, please keep it up.

Edited by Remy, 12 October 2012 - 12:18 AM.

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Posted 12 October 2012 - 12:17 AM

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For the people claiming that she's partially to blame for her mistake. Wow.
Coming from someone who's suffered from mild depression, seeking help isn't as easy as it seems.
She changed schools and cities, what, 4 times?
Sure, she flashed someone. She was looking for attention. She was what, 12 when it happened? How stupid of her.
Really. Reaaaaaaaaally dumb comments.

I agree 1000% I was physically, mentally and sexually abused starting at the age of 8. The sexual abuse stopped when I was 12 but physical and mental ended when I was 18. It took me until the age of 37 to finally talk about it. It ended quite a few relationships and almost ended my marriage because of what it all did to me. I tried suicide with pills and alcohol more then once. Thank goodness I was not successful. But like you said, it is hard to talk about. Anyone who blames the victim has obviously never been one. Why should she curve her Internet use? The bully's are the ones that need to change, not her. It disgusts me when anyone tries to put some blame on the victim. Walk a mile in our shoes and see how far you get. Now i have no problem talking about it because it was not my fault. It was all theirs.
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Posted 12 October 2012 - 12:25 AM

this is just so unbelievably sad.. I cried after watching the video and I'm an 18 year old guy.. it's too bad it wasn't news until it was too late.. imagine the support she would have had if her video went viral a month ago.. sigh some people are just terrible..

RIP amanda
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Posted 12 October 2012 - 12:37 AM

nevermind

Edited by GLASSJAW, 12 October 2012 - 12:39 AM.

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Posted 12 October 2012 - 12:57 AM

RIP

And to those who attacked the girl on twitter threatening her and saying those other harsh things... You are no better than the people involved in this. Hope you realize that now if you got caught up earlier, just like she was caught up in the moment perhaps?
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Posted 12 October 2012 - 01:20 AM

RIP Amanda.

Wonder if any of the cyber bullies who are picking on the Biebs fan are in here talking smack against HS bullies.
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Posted 12 October 2012 - 06:42 AM

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Social media has taken bullying to a whole new level, and it's scary. Bullies used to have to at least bring the "toughness", face to face. Now, people glom on and it's like any bully can hop on the fast track by simply joining in online and adding their insults. God, we see it happen here and it's why we don't tolerate personal attacks...because it's too easy for it to spiral out of control and be damaging.

I was a single Mom and my kids were both bullied at certain points so I saw, first hand, how debilitating it was for them. My daughter is still dealing with the aftermath and it's severe and intense. The school(s) did nothing. They put up catchy posters and promoted anti bullying yet, when they were approached with a case, really didn't know how to handle it effectively.

This hurt my heart. Yes, this very young girl made some bad choices but it's a period of learning - and don't/didn't we all? But it doesn't seem like she did have anyone guiding her....maybe giving her pointers of how to not "try" so hard to please others. To feel good enough about herself that she didn't make choices that scream of low self esteem. In keeping these bullies as friends, etc., there's an obvious need that she felt to hang on to them, to fit in. Some just don't have the tools to do it without sacrificing themselves. It's so tragic and sad. Where WERE the parents is right? But, honestly, even the most involved parents (I was - maybe too much so at times?) can find themselves having to deal with a child who feels broken and is experiencing alienation and bullying. It's a very helpless situation at times.

I don't know how/where it ends, but strength in number applies at both ends. While bullying can snowball and escalate, the people standing beside the victim can also help deter it. Bullies are cowards who usually go for the vulnerable/weak and so it's important to stand beside people experiencing this horrible crime (yes, it is). Kids can be cruel and laugh at bullying like it's amusing...that makes it acceptable. It's not. I think alienation and isolation really come into play and, when kids are being bullied, they often feel very alone. If they have someone to turn to, it can really help. It's so tragic when they don't and take these drastic, fatal measures. Poor kid.

I feel so terribly sad over this. I've seen girls like this and it's so senseless...if only they'd find that acceptance they're looking for within themselves.

TP: I think most parents wouldn't be in a place to even thinking about suing. I know I wouldn't want the blood m oney associated with what sent my child over the edge. To profit from it monetarily. It would mean fighting it out and dragging yourself through it in a more public vs private way.

Sorry for the TLDR post... mostly, it was for myself. :)
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