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Online dating newb seeks guidance from cdc

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After years of sitting at home, with only cdc and work to entertain me, I have decided to try and get back into the dating scene. Maybe 'back' isn't quite the word I should be using. My last date was probably around 8 years ago (in the Cloutier era) and my dating history was pretty sparse even before that.

Dang, maybe this should be a how to date thread instead of a how to date online one.

...OK. I just reached the POF homepage and already I'm turned off by what I see...

I haven't even entered 'fat women' as a preference yet!!!

is there a better site to start this ...?

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Watch Catfish (the movie or the tv show)... you'll be turned off to online dating completely :lol:

My two cents? You'll be better off finding someone irl.

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maybe zoosk? Although I'm not sure of the quality on their either

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It's a numbers game. My friend received like 50 messages per day, and she was probably just 5/10.

You literally will have to spam. A quick humourous message that can be copy and pasted.

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Two of my friends on my hockey team met their girlfriends on POF.

One of which just became engaged.

So it does work - just patience and an open mind is needed.... but mostly patience.

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My sister met someone on POF. They became boyfriend and girlfriend. Then after about a year of dating he proposed to her, she said yes. Then after a little over a year of being engaged they finally got married about 2 months ago now.

So give it a shot.

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Watch Catfish (the movie or the tv show)... you'll be turned off to online dating completely :lol:

My two cents? You'll be better off finding someone irl.

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aren't people afraid of people irl recognizing them?? van's a small town, really

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on pof? Can't you do a photo like from behind, and then message people your interested in your photo?

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Use video games and CDC man

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on pof? Can't you do a photo like from behind, and then message people your interested in your photo?

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I felt kinda bad for that guy, but all I could do was laugh. :lol: Like that part where he was reading aloud the text messages they were sending each other... Oh I just lost it. So funny and embarassing for the dude.

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It's a numbers game. My friend received like 50 messages per day, and she was probably just 5/10.

You literally will have to spam. A quick humourous message that can be copy and pasted.

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Forcing dates may work but its like driving a car made under gunpoint. It may work but something isint right.

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I was in a similar situation about 4.5 years ago, except I was about 3 months past relationship that ended prematurely due to relgious differences. We were set up by my sister and I vowed to try something different this time. I had friends that had success on dating sites so I figured I'd give it a try. I went in with the mindset of not necessarily finding a relationship, but potentially meet interesting people and just take it from there.

I scanned POF but didn't really like it. Almost signed up to Match.com but had profile issues that annoyed me. Finally settled on eHarmony and shelled out the money. Heh, money well spent. The questions they walk you through with a match act as decent ice breakers (you can skip them if you want too). Within a month, I had been matched, contacted, and gone on the first date with the person that ended up being my wife now of 2.5 years.

So, yeah, good luck. But also, like Mountain Man said, don't force anything. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. There usually isn't a shortage of profiles, so go with the ones that intrigue/excite you.

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Grrrr.... I had a nice in depth post and the board f'd me :mad:

Long and the short of it....

POF tends to be a bit of a "meat market" from my experience. That's not to say you can't find a relationship there (as evidenced above), it's just less likely IMO.

Like Wilbur, I ended up on EH. People seem to be looking for something more concrete and less superficial there. I figured that what I'd been doing/my preferences IRL weren't working out, so I'd see what they could do for me. They get a pretty in depth view of your personality/preferences which, so long as you and your matches are HONEST, means that pretty much everyone you get matched with should mesh with your personality. They also give you a pretty good volume of matches which even lets you be a bit picky,..lol. Now that doesn't mean that if you get matched with 150 people that they'll all be soul mates. It's still up to both of you to have/build chemistry, attraction and form the basis of a relationship. That doesn't just "happen". What it does do vastly is increase your odds of having that happen IMO. It allows you to narrow and streamline the field.

Be brutally honest with yourself when creating your profile though. If you don't want a smoker, say so etc. If you try to be "nice" or mask insecurities it will not give you the best results.

As for myself, I met my wife of about 1.5 years and recent mother of our twin boys on there. No regrets whatsoever :wub:

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Just watch out for the super great picture. Profile pics can be decieving....

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