Check out PagansRUs.com
And there is an instruction manual as well:
This guide is a complete system of rites drawing upon ancient pagan traditions of many cultures to celebrate the life transitions of those on the pagan path. Hundreds of traditions and rites are provided, including birth and paganing, coming of age and death.
Meh, I will just do my traditional holiday theme of putting a decorated tree in my house and putting up lights to help brighten up the winter solstice. Exchange some brightly decorated but very much covert gifts. Hang an oversized sock or too above the hearth and put some goodies in it.
I think that's more than Pagan enough and saves me the bother of figuring all that out.