I think this is more about changing the attitudes of coaches and parents than it is about making kids "feel good". Too many coaches and parents have a "win at all costs" attitude, even for young kids playing in house leagues. When I was younger I was a referee, and even when reffing 9 year olds I had to deal with crazy parents and coaches.
It has been ever thus.
Back in the day I was playing Midget rep and we were in the finals against a team that featured future NHLer Gene Carr (son of NHL Red Carr) who was a terrific player. He took unbelievable abuse from opposing team parents. In the best of three final we were up by a goal in the third period (and this would be the first time in years we had a chance to win our region because of Gene's stellar play). Carr was easily the best player on the ice and our goalie was stoning him time after time.
Midway through the third Carr danced our captain and went in all alone but was stopped again. From the stands came the bellow from the father of our captain - "Bobby, don't let the ************** *******, drop him." So Bobby dropped him with a punch - got 5 and game and Carr scored two goals on the PP to win the series.
I learned from that. When I was coaching Midget rep many years ago, I had a written Code of Conduct for players and parents - long before it was common practise. I had meeting with all parents and made it clear that any abuse directed towards players on either team would result in their son being cut from the team. And I only had to cut one player before the message got through. Subsequently the father apologized and agreed to voluntarily ban himself from the rink for the rest of the season and I reinstated the player.
Or like this idiot hockey dad in Winnipeg. Video at the link - WARNING profanity.
Hockey dad's outburst sparks condemnation
An outburst by a parent at a Winnipeg hockey game Monday night has hockey associations wondering whether behaviour courses should be mandatory for parents as well as for coaches and officials.
The man, Jason Boyd, was caught on video yelling at and threatening another parent — who asked him to stop calling his son a midget — during a game Monday night at Southdale Community Centre between St. Andrews and Southdale.
The players were 15 years old. Boyd did not comment on Thursday but his family said his outburst was in the heat of the moment and that he has since apologized.
But the parent who was on the receiving end of the outburst, Chuck Kitson, said he has not received an apology. "There was no apology to the players, to the referees, or to any of the other parents that he insulted," said Kitson.
Peter Woods, executive director of Hockey Manitoba, said he has seen video of the confrontation.
"It's a bit disturbing that people have to treat each other in that particular manner," he said, adding Hockey Manitoba is considering requiring hockey parents to take the same online Respect in Sport course that coaches, managers and hockey officials are required to take.
Board members of the Lord Selkirk Minor Hockey Association, for whom Boyd's son plays, were to meet Thursday night to discuss various options regarding the incident.http://www.cbc.ca/ne...t-outburst.html
A Manitoba hockey dad says he's sorry for an explosive outburst during a minor-league hockey game in Winnipeg and said he accepts that he will not be allowed to watch his son’s hockey games as a result.
In a YouTube video that went viral Thursday, hockey-dad Jason Boyd can be seen yelling insults at one of his son's hockey opponents.
The teen’s father, Chuck Kitson, steps in to defend his son by asking Boyd not to insult him.
The confrontation then escalates and Boyd threatens Kitson.
“His remarks were uncalled for – completely irresponsible, and for an adult to go on like that, at a kid’s game, is unimaginable,” said Kitson.
The incident happened at a minor-league hockey game on Monday night at the Southdale Community Centre.
“I was intimidated. I was scared. His behavior was as violent and threatening as I’ve seen in any hockey game,” said Kitson.
Later in the game, Kitson’s son Emerson broke his arm. Kitson said Boyd’s outbursts continued even after that.
“He celebrates again. It was hard to watch. These are kids on the ice,” said Kitson.
Kitson's son said he viewed Boyd as a bully but wasn't going to let the incident get to him.
Now, the Lord Selkirk Minor Hockey Association wants Boyd banned from all of its playoff games.
The decision still has to be approved by Hockey Winnipeg, but if upheld, Boyd won't be allowed near the ice for the remainder of the season.
Hockey dad issues statement
Boyd issued a statement on Friday, saying he wanted to “sincerely apologize to Chuck Kitson and his 15-year-old son” for his behaviour at the game.
He said in the written statement, “I cannot and will not try to justify or excuse my actions. I had a significant lapse in judgment and for that I am truly sorry.”
He said he accepted the league’s suspension and supported their efforts to reduce parent confrontations at games.
He added he would make an in-person apology to Kitson and his son.
Boyd's family has said the outburst was in the heat of the moment and the ensuing online backlash is unfair.http://www.cbc.ca/ne...d-winnipeg.html
Boyd is a moron - there is no excuse.
Here is the video - Warning profanity
And then there was the idiot hockey coach who tripped an opposing player after the game at UBC and who has been convicted of assault His sentencing is to come on Feb 26, 2013.
A Vancouver minor hockey coach caught on video tripping two teenage players on the ice has pleaded guilty to assault.
Martin Tremblay entered the guilty plea through his lawyer Bob Bellows in court on Tuesday, reported the Richmond Review.
Tremblay, who was coaching the UBC Hornets, was lining up to shake hands with the opposing team at the end of a gold-medal game in June. Video which was later posted on YouTube shows Tremblay swinging his foot out and knocking down two players who fall to the ice.
One was unhurt, while the other -- a 13-year-old -- broke his wrist, reported CTV News.
Tremblay's team had won the game against the Richmond Steel.
Bellows told CTV his client feels "shame and remorse" and has written a letter of apology to the teens. Bellows said he is seeking a sentence with no jail time.http://www.huffingto..._n_2169447.html