nzan, on 17 February 2013 - 11:07 PM, said:
i don't know man, to me it sounded like you and the guy are pretty tight friends despite differences of opinion. or if not tight friends, at least authentic friends.
and that's the problem with Christians generally, they come off as completely inauthentic (ie: hypocritical) and then try to make you feel crappy that you don't hold to the same standard that they do.
Sounds to me like your buddy is struggling to align his life with a standard that he believes is correct (albeit imperfectly, and perhaps baby-stepping towards "un-hypocritical-ness"?) but ISN'T turning into a total douchebag as it relates to you and your friendship.
At the same time, it seems like you're a good enough friend to cut him slack while he's trying to figure out what's right and wrong for himself (even if it doesn't make sense to you).
Sounds to me like your buddy is a better "Christian" than the Christians most people have experienced, and you're a better "heathen" than simply dismissing him outright because he's setting his life up a certain way.
Well thought out answer.
I started to think the same way. It almost seems as if he's trying to force it onto himself. I mean sometimes he tries to shove his religion on to me, and I can joke around with it sometimes. like; "Don't worry dude. I'll go make an appointment to talk to God and make sure he's cool with you playing video games." and he'll laugh along with the joke too.
But he'll slip up and occasionally shoot a.. rude remark? like the "I wish you would put your faith in somebody else"
another time he asked if I wanted to go to a church session? It wasn't church but like a group where they read a part of the bible and then translate that part into modern language, and I was working during the times of it and he said "if you truly believed and cared you would of made time" and "Somebody at the group said almost the same thing as you (was to busy to go to the group because of work/school/sports) and died a few weeks later of a heart attack."
Usually I just let it slide, he's been my bud since like grade 5 and I respect everyones opinions and beliefs, but this latest development, i'm trying to view it through his eyes, and another person linked part of the bible where it says its wrong; yet he still plays video games but won't watch horror movies so it confuses me.
As for the he's a better "Christian" then most; when he found out 2 of his friends were brought up Catholic; he refused to talk to them. He didn't hate them or have anything against them as people, but he couldn't "Stand to be around Catholics because it just infuriated him"
Edited by yawn.3x, 17 February 2013 - 11:23 PM.