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Overall, staying friends with your 'Ex' a good or bad idea?

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  1. 1. Do you stay friends with your ex's?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Depends on the situation - explain below

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Don't want to make it complicated but after recently entering the dating scene the last couple years, I'm finding out that staying friends with your ex isn't the greatest idea. I broke up with one, and in another I was broken up with. Jealousy, confusion, all sorts of poop spoken and unspoken going on. Situation isn't good in either case. So what is your rule for ex's?

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I'm on good terms with all my exs. Kind of look at it as having reference for a new job *COUGH* girlfriend. That way the new lady can see how amazing I must have been since the exs are cool and vouch for me. :P

Either way depends on the situation.

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Every situation is different. If you and her are mature enough to handle it, why not?

If you care about her, and she cares about you - keep in touch. Having people in your life that truly care about is a rare commodity, especially as you age. It's beneficial to keep those people around, even if you no longer have a romantic relationship with them.

If the relationship was toxic, it will likely continue being toxic afterwards. If that's the case it should be a no brainier to distance yourself.

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"I broke up with one, and in another I was broken up with"

No comprendo!

Anyways, no, generally not worth it unless they are giving up the feline and no other feline available. However, the hand is always bull**** free and you can do whatever you want too!

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If there's a possibility of hubba hubba, and she's cool with that, stay friends.

If not, bounce. She's only gonna cause you psychological stress. It's best you move on to better things and eliminate the bad from your past.

But of course it really does depend on the situation, and the girl.

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By the way I think I may have patented a new move. Been in a LTR you don't like? Scared to break the girls heart? Buy gifts THEN break up with them right after. It's a little complicated but for me it works like a charm. Exs still love me haha!

Side note: it may work on a guy yet I'm not sure. Ladies let me know ;)

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I personally don't like staying friends with exes or having them in my life in any way. I think of them as reminders of the past that I'd rather not interact with on a regular basis. If it was a bad relationship, it could become a toxic friendship. Even if it was a healthy/good relationship, it's still a reminder of something that didn't work out. I'd imagine unresolved subconscious feelings or issues may linger and pop up later. Or, what I see in a particular friend of mine who stays friends with every ex, holding out for "something" to eventually happen.

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Keep them buried in your phone and hope for some action when you struck out all night.

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Short version; Usually not worth it unless there are special circumstances...

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I'm on good terms with my exes, however I usually lose touch with them soon after the break-up just because they were girlfriend material but not friend material and the platonic connection just wasn't there.

However, there is one girl that I would stay friends with after a break up no matter what.

It really depends on the situation, if being friends with them proves more beneficial than harmful then go for it. Don't force yourself to stay friends with them.

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Overall it really depends. But I'd say the vast majority of the time NO. Move on and make new relationships/friendships.

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If your still hitting it then yeah why not, if not then whats the point, lol

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No two cases are the same, so there's no right answer. I'm mostly cool with my exes but I wouldn't say that we're friends - more like if I ran into them somewhere, we'd make genuine conversation and laugh it up a bit, but we'd never go out of our way to meet again. I think once you've been that close, there's no backtracking, it just becomes awkward seeing each other on a regular basis and having to change your behaviour.

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If your still hitting it then yeah why not, if not then whats the point, lol

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I also voted that 'it depends on the situation'. I have one ex gf that i stayed in good touch with for 15 years after we broke up. She always seemed to care how i was doing, and all difficult feelings between us were gone within a year after breaking up, so why not? It was good for both of us.

However, if its a person that stirs up unavoidable negative feelings, like if they cheated on you, then stay away, even if they want to be friends. No use hanging on to people in your life that did not treat you well enough, as theres plenty around that will treat you well.

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Like facebook friends yeah.. it's always nice to let them know you're life is fabulous and amazing w/o them. Like real life friends, goodness gracious no.

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By the way I think I may have patented a new move. Been in a LTR you don't like? Scared to break the girls heart? Buy gifts THEN break up with them right after. It's a little complicated but for me it works like a charm. Exs still love me haha!

Side note: it may work on a guy yet I'm not sure. Ladies let me know ;)

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In my experience this is a HORRIBLE idea. Of course my ex is/was a fracking PSYCHOPATH...but yeah...in my experience not a great idea.

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The gift of death...!

You're a troll, Ed. Buy her an autographed Burrows jersey and she'll be forced to think about you every time the Canucks are on TV. :lol:

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If you're planning to hook up again, yes.

If not, no.

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