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#1 hsedin33

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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:29 PM

Don't want to make it complicated but after recently entering the dating scene the last couple years, I'm finding out that staying friends with your ex isn't the greatest idea. I broke up with one, and in another I was broken up with. Jealousy, confusion, all sorts of poop spoken and unspoken going on. Situation isn't good in either case. So what is your rule for ex's?

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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:38 PM

I'm on good terms with all my exs. Kind of look at it as having reference for a new job *COUGH* girlfriend. That way the new lady can see how amazing I must have been since the exs are cool and vouch for me. :P

Either way depends on the situation.

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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:40 PM

Every situation is different. If you and her are mature enough to handle it, why not?

If you care about her, and she cares about you - keep in touch. Having people in your life that truly care about is a rare commodity, especially as you age. It's beneficial to keep those people around, even if you no longer have a romantic relationship with them.

If the relationship was toxic, it will likely continue being toxic afterwards. If that's the case it should be a no brainier to distance yourself.

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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:40 PM

"I broke up with one, and in another I was broken up with"

No comprendo!

Anyways, no, generally not worth it unless they are giving up the feline and no other feline available. However, the hand is always bull**** free and you can do whatever you want too!

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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:43 PM

If there's a possibility of hubba hubba, and she's cool with that, stay friends.

If not, bounce. She's only gonna cause you psychological stress. It's best you move on to better things and eliminate the bad from your past.

But of course it really does depend on the situation, and the girl.

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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:44 PM

By the way I think I may have patented a new move. Been in a LTR you don't like? Scared to break the girls heart? Buy gifts THEN break up with them right after. It's a little complicated but for me it works like a charm. Exs still love me haha!

Side note: it may work on a guy yet I'm not sure. Ladies let me know ;)

Edited by Special Ed, 18 April 2013 - 12:08 AM.

If you like looking at statistics to determine who's better, you're just a casual fan.

2.41 season GAA isn't very impressive. Let's not get into playoffs and his SV%.

Cory Schneider is the next Patrick Roy.


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Posted 17 April 2013 - 11:46 PM

I personally don't like staying friends with exes or having them in my life in any way. I think of them as reminders of the past that I'd rather not interact with on a regular basis. If it was a bad relationship, it could become a toxic friendship. Even if it was a healthy/good relationship, it's still a reminder of something that didn't work out. I'd imagine unresolved subconscious feelings or issues may linger and pop up later. Or, what I see in a particular friend of mine who stays friends with every ex, holding out for "something" to eventually happen.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 12:22 AM

Keep them buried in your phone and hope for some action when you struck out all night.
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Posted 18 April 2013 - 12:30 AM

Short version; Usually not worth it unless there are special circumstances...




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Posted 18 April 2013 - 12:34 AM

I'm on good terms with my exes, however I usually lose touch with them soon after the break-up just because they were girlfriend material but not friend material and the platonic connection just wasn't there.

However, there is one girl that I would stay friends with after a break up no matter what.

It really depends on the situation, if being friends with them proves more beneficial than harmful then go for it. Don't force yourself to stay friends with them.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 12:54 AM

Overall it really depends. But I'd say the vast majority of the time NO. Move on and make new relationships/friendships.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 01:01 AM

If your still hitting it then yeah why not, if not then whats the point, lol

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 01:04 AM

No two cases are the same, so there's no right answer. I'm mostly cool with my exes but I wouldn't say that we're friends - more like if I ran into them somewhere, we'd make genuine conversation and laugh it up a bit, but we'd never go out of our way to meet again. I think once you've been that close, there's no backtracking, it just becomes awkward seeing each other on a regular basis and having to change your behaviour.


 


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Posted 18 April 2013 - 01:18 AM

If your still hitting it then yeah why not, if not then whats the point, lol


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Posted 18 April 2013 - 01:27 AM

I also voted that 'it depends on the situation'. I have one ex gf that i stayed in good touch with for 15 years after we broke up. She always seemed to care how i was doing, and all difficult feelings between us were gone within a year after breaking up, so why not? It was good for both of us.
However, if its a person that stirs up unavoidable negative feelings, like if they cheated on you, then stay away, even if they want to be friends. No use hanging on to people in your life that did not treat you well enough, as theres plenty around that will treat you well.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 02:41 AM

Like facebook friends yeah.. it's always nice to let them know you're life is fabulous and amazing w/o them. Like real life friends, goodness gracious no.
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Posted 18 April 2013 - 03:36 AM

By the way I think I may have patented a new move. Been in a LTR you don't like? Scared to break the girls heart? Buy gifts THEN break up with them right after. It's a little complicated but for me it works like a charm. Exs still love me haha!

Side note: it may work on a guy yet I'm not sure. Ladies let me know ;)


The gift of death...!

You're a troll, Ed. Buy her an autographed Burrows jersey and she'll be forced to think about you every time the Canucks are on TV. :lol:

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 03:48 AM

In my experience this is a HORRIBLE idea. Of course my ex is/was a fracking PSYCHOPATH...but yeah...in my experience not a great idea.
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Posted 18 April 2013 - 06:21 AM

The gift of death...!

You're a troll, Ed. Buy her an autographed Burrows jersey and she'll be forced to think about you every time the Canucks are on TV. :lol:


Haha yeah maybe.

If you like looking at statistics to determine who's better, you're just a casual fan.

2.41 season GAA isn't very impressive. Let's not get into playoffs and his SV%.

Cory Schneider is the next Patrick Roy.


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Posted 18 April 2013 - 07:19 AM

If you're planning to hook up again, yes.

If not, no.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 07:21 AM

Depends on the situation. One of my ex's cheated on me, so in that case there was no staying friends. One when we broke up it was cordial. But then she'd call me at weird hours to talk, and then even call me at work (She just really became semi-stalkerish), and I had to just walk away from that.
One we were good friends afterwords, but it was kinda awkward visiting her when her boyfriend at the time would show up.

I think long term it doesn't work out. I've had better luck staying friends with girls that you never dated in the first place.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 07:23 AM

Depends on the situation. One of my ex's cheated on me, so in that case there was no staying friends. One when we broke up it was cordial. But then she'd call me at weird hours to talk, and then even call me at work, and I had to just walk away from that.
One we were good friends afterwords, but it was kinda awkward visiting her when her boyfriend at the time would show up.

I think long term it doesn't work out. I've had better luck staying friends with girls that you never dated in the first place.


Same here. Once you go past the friend threshold with a girl it's kind of difficult to get things back to the way they were before.
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Posted 18 April 2013 - 07:38 AM

I don't want to see them but I have too, they're my babies mommas.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 08:29 AM

You mean to tell me that you don't kill your exes?...

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:14 AM

I agree with those that say "it depends on the situation." I am still friends with several of my ex-girlfriends, one of them was actually in my wedding. But it kind of depends on why you broke up and how you both view it.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:24 AM

I generally always date people from work.
So I am very careful about how I end relationships.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:26 AM

I can't exactly do it myself, always end up trying to sleep with them.

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:34 AM

Depends on the situation. One of my ex's cheated on me, so in that case there was no staying friends. One when we broke up it was cordial. But then she'd call me at weird hours to talk, and then even call me at work (She just really became semi-stalkerish), and I had to just walk away from that.
One we were good friends afterwords, but it was kinda awkward visiting her when her boyfriend at the time would show up.

I think long term it doesn't work out. I've had better luck staying friends with girls that you never dated in the first place.


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Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:37 AM

I tried to be cool with my ex, but she didn't listen..ended up going to Walmart and buying duct tape and rope..

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Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:52 AM

Depends on your situation and there's. For myself, my exes and I have remained friendly, ending things with everything on the table and as clean as can be. However, we are not friends. If you are currently in a relationship, or married, being friends with your ex is generally not a good idea.

One of my ex's and I ended things on great terms. And to be honest, we both would say probably ended things pre-maturely. Knowing this, as does my wife, I do not maintain a friendship with her at all. When we cross paths, we are friendly, but we cannot be friends.

That's why I said it depends on your current situation and there's. If both of you are still single and ended things well, I don't see the harm. Otherwise, not the greatest idea.

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