How confident are you in your ability to judge character?

[Mainly Mattias]

People think they are good at reading people but in reality they aren't.

i'll agree with that. because how would anyone know if they WEREN'T good at judging people? only when something bad happens...

it's easier to judge an extrovert than an introvert, as extroverts tend to reveal a lot more about themselves. this is why introverts think they can understand people better, because they are getting more info from people than they reveal themselves.

yeah, makes sense. i wonder what most cdcers are - extroverts or introverts.

[-DLC-]

Pretty damn good. It's intuition for me...a gut thing and I just know. And it's rarely steered me wrong...very instinctual.

Believe it or not, had me jump out of a car with someone to this day I'm convinced was:

I was young, naive and did a dumb thing in hitch hiking to Seattle by myself. On the I-5 when a guy picked me up...flat of beer in the front and he insisted I get in the front with him. Red flags went off quickly. Offered me a beer, I declined.

When he took an exit off the highway I knew this wasn't right....it was a rural road between Blaine and Bellingham and there was nothing but fields and a barn way off in the distance. I asked what he was doing and he told me he had to stop someplace and that we "wouldn't be long". He slowed down for some RR tracks and a stop sign and I used that as my chance...hopped out and ran like a bugger. He didn't turn around, just kept driving on. And I got back to the I-5 and was a complete mess in a "what the hell am I doing?" way. Was a big eye opener but I'm convinced it was him. 100%.

I also met my ex's brother's future wife and her friends....the first time ever they struck me as awful. My ex thought I was just being bitchy but, again, just got a bad vibe. She eventually married my brother in law and cheated on him with his best friend after a lavish, very expensive facade of a wedding.

But it's not foolproof...I can also be tricked and some people are very convincing at first. My employers were like that...was just a front and they're NOTHING like what they presented.

[Big Mike]

Pretty damn good. It's intuition for me...a gut thing and I just know. And it's rarely steered me wrong...very instinctual.

Believe it or not, had me jump out of a car with someone to this day I'm convinced was:

I was young, naive and did a dumb thing in hitch hiking to Seattle by myself. On the I-5 when a guy picked me up...flat of beer in the front and he insisted I get in the front with him. Red flags went off quickly. Offered me a beer, I declined.

When he took an exit off the highway I knew this wasn't right....it was a rural road between Blaine and Bellingham and there was nothing but fields and a barn way off in the distance. I asked what he was doing and he told me he had to stop someplace and that we "wouldn't be long". He slowed down for some RR tracks and a stop sign and I used that as my chance...hopped out and ran like a bugger. He didn't turn around, just kept driving on. And I got back to the I-5 and was a complete mess in a "what the hell am I doing?" way. Was a big eye opener but I'm convinced it was him. 100%.

I also met my ex's brother's future wife and her friends....the first time ever they struck me as awful. My ex thought I was just being bitchy but, again, just got a bad vibe. She eventually married my brother in law and cheated on him with his best friend after a lavish, very expensive facade of a wedding.

But it's not foolproof...I can also be tricked and some people are very convincing at first. My employers were like that...was just a front and they're NOTHING like what they presented.

Well if he was who you think he was you had a very lucky escape.

Out of curiosity what year was this in ?

[Big Mike]

On a similar note my cousin was good friends with Cody Legebokoff and I met him on a few occasion's and he never once struck me as what he really was. No one had any idea what kind of a person he really was.

[ilduce39]

i'll agree with that. because how would anyone know if they WEREN'T good at judging people? only when something bad happens...

yeah, makes sense. i wonder what most cdcers are - extroverts or introverts.

CDC? Introvert central I'd wager.

I'm naturally an introvert but have to be out there for work and I'd say you learn a lot more about people actually engaging than sitting back and watching.

[Guest Gumballthechewy]

i'll agree with that. because how would anyone know if they WEREN'T good at judging people? only when something bad happens...

Well it's mostly that people only learn about us what we let on about us, if you follow what I'm trying to say.

For example I could be a psycho killer but you wouldn't know it if I was outgoing and charming like most psycho killers out there. Take Ted Bundy for example, he was a very handsome and charming man and that's how he lulled his victims into a false sense of security.

I'm not saying all people are a terrible judge of character but most people are.

yeah, makes sense. i wonder what most cdcers are - extroverts or introverts.

I used to be a very shy person but since my late teens I started to become very outgoing.

[Guest Gumballthechewy]

Confirmed Chip Kelly is the creepy dude on the skytrain that stares at you!

Speaking of misjudging character...

[EB²]

I used to think that I was pretty good at judging someone's character, but recently something happened that made me question that ability.

sighhhh, same thing happened to me. Although I feel like I pushed myself away from a person and made myself believe differently. I'm now regretting but I guess everything happens for a reason.

[drummer4now]

CDC? Introvert central I'd wager.

I'm naturally an introvert but have to be out there for work and I'd say you learn a lot more about people actually engaging than sitting back and watching.

Being an introvert has its pros and cons. Initially in my early teens I was very extroverted to the point I would basically say anything that came to my mind, at the time I didn't really notice people not taking me seriously, but after as I got more mature I noticed I had many fake friends who would basically run me over... Then I developed my ego more lol and now I am introverted... Maybe a little more then I would like to be.

[Mainly Mattias]

yeah, deb. I remember you telling us about that story. how many victims were too shy/trusting/polite for their own good?

for those of you interested re: big mike's post - here's a link on Cody Legebokoff http://bc.ctvnews.ca/trial-opens-for-accused-b-c-serial-killer-1.1487240

ilduce, i think there are plenty of people who are pushed to be extroverts when they're normally introverts in their jobs. surprisingly, i recently discovered that its something that's measured in a behavioural test (how much you change yourself to adapt). (ok, just looked it up - the success insights wheel)

[Captain Aerosex]

I guarantee the grand majority of people here saying they're good judges of character don't even have a clue. Just because you're introverted and quiet doesn't make you observant, and even though you might observe you can't necessarily interpret.

I would say that a minority of people actually possess the natural intuition and 'sight' to be good judges of character.

[Mr.DirtyDangles]

I guarantee the grand majority of people here saying they're good judges of character don't even have a clue. Just because you're introverted and quiet doesn't make you observant, and even though you might observe you can't necessarily interpret.

I would say that a minority of people actually possess the natural intuition and 'sight' to be good judges of character.

Emotion coupled with ego are the common denominators inhibiting our true intuition/judgement. Individual situational experiences will obviously vary. So we can either live and learn together (vicariously living through family, friends, co-worker etc) while walking our own paths. Or we can go blindly into the night claiming ignorance is bliss.

[drummer4now]

Emotion coupled with ego are the common denominators inhibiting our true intuition/judgement. Individual situational experiences will obviously vary. So we can either live and learn together (vicariously living through family, friends, co-worker etc) while walking our own paths. Or we can go blindly into the night claiming ignorance is bliss.

^I didn't know DirtyDangles was Sigmund Freud in disguise lol.

[Mr.DirtyDangles]

^I didn't know DirtyDangles was Sigmund Freud in disguise lol.

this is what happens without the liquor : p

[Kryten]

I guarantee the grand majority of people here saying they're good judges of character don't even have a clue. Just because you're introverted and quiet doesn't make you observant, and even though you might observe you can't necessarily interpret.

I would say that a minority of people actually possess the natural intuition and 'sight' to be good judges of character.

We need you to play mafia. We miss you. Yolanda.

[Captain Aerosex]

Emotion coupled with ego are the common denominators inhibiting our true intuition/judgement. Individual situational experiences will obviously vary. So we can either live and learn together (vicariously living through family, friends, co-worker etc) while walking our own paths. Or we can go blindly into the night claiming ignorance is bliss.

I don't even know what you said. You white people and your vocabulary and metaphors and shit.

We need you to play mafia. We miss you. Yolanda.

Sorry man, life and school took over. Done exams in May I can play then. Smooches

[Psylocke]

sighhhh, same thing happened to me. Although I feel like I pushed myself away from a person and made myself believe differently. I'm now regretting but I guess everything happens for a reason.

For me, I thought that this person was a friend and a good person for a long time. I trusted them (and I don't trust people easily) and it turned out that I was wrong to have trusted them. I pretty much cut them out of my life once I found out the truth.

Re: introvert vs extrovert: I think that I'm an extrovert to a certain extent. I'm social and can pretty much talk to anyone, but I'm also very private. I don't often reveal a lot about myself; especially not to people I don't know well.

I used to be a very shy, quiet person. Now, not so much.

[themcdeal]

I'm generally pretty poor at it lol

Takes me a few meetings to read a person. I'm not one of those people that can see someone and speak to them for a minute and make a good judgment call.

[themcdeal]

I used to think that I was pretty good at judging someone's character, but recently something happened that made me question that ability.

way to leave everyone hanging

[Mr.DirtyDangles]

I don't even know what you said. You white people and your vocabulary and metaphors and crap.

Sorry man, life and school took over. Done exams in May I can play then. Smooches

What I meant was real life experience trumps all. The more relationships you experience, the better you will be at judging someone's character. Most importantly learn from other peoples mistakes !

..and I prefer Euro trash over whitey lol