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New plan, the next time she calls you tell her straight up you don't want to continue chatting with her in the wee hours of the night unless it is something her boyfriend is completely fine with or it's a relationship that has fizzled out. Don't respond to her unless she gives you a definite answer. Ezpz.

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There's a million women out there. Why guys waste their time with women who are already in relationships is mind boggling. There are so many ways of meeting people out there nowadays why waste your time with an over complicated situation like this. It's human nature to be curious but don't be a scumbag and try and pursue this. Think about it. If your girlfriend was "tight" with another guy how would you feel? I know so many guys that get hung up on certain women regardless of their personal situation and it ends up causing more harm than good. Does she like you? Maybe she's attracted to certain traits/qualities you have that her current boyfriend doesn't have but it's not worth it bro. Trust me.

I don't think guys purposely try to go after girls that have boyfriends. A lot of the time they don't even know they have them when they start to have feelings for them.

But that's what it is really about, feelings. From my experience its better to not think with the heart. But idk everyone has it different.

Guys just tend to fall for the same type of women, especially if they are looking for love.

If they aren't however, the possibilities are endless.

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Ask her?

Get to the point so you're not wasting time if your interest is in more than just what you've got at face value. Point blank - how do you feel about me? What is the deal here?

Asking CDC is like seeking advice from a dollar shop rather than a mechanic when your car stalls.

That would make him sound like a douche. Unless the girl is an easy slut if you are a guy you should never go up to a girl with a boyfriend and and casually ask if she is into you. Social image and human nature contradict even if she did have feelings presenting such a blunt scenario would be rejected by a girl with even a hint of integrity. If he wants to steal a guys gf he needs to go slow and establish a higher value than the bf. Otherwise he will just come off like a selfish douche working a neanderthal like line on her.

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That would make him sound like a douche. Unless the girl is an easy slut if you are a guy you should never go up to a girl with a boyfriend and and casually ask if she is into you. Social image and human nature contradict even if she did have feelings presenting such a blunt scenario would be rejected by a girl with even a hint of integrity. If he wants to steal a guys gf he needs to go slow and establish a higher value than the bf. Otherwise he will just come off like a selfish douche working a neanderthal like line on her.

She already knows he is not a douche, since dude spends like 1-2 hrs a night gabbing with her on friendly talk.

Life is too short to waste on keeping feelings repressed. If she says no, so what? At least dude will have his answer, and then maybe he can stop wasting so much time on this bs. And who knows, maybe she secretly wants to ditch her current boyfriend and is waiting for this new guy to start showing some balls. Fortune favors the bold.

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That would make him sound like a douche. Unless the girl is an easy slut if you are a guy you should never go up to a girl with a boyfriend and and casually ask if she is into you. Social image and human nature contradict even if she did have feelings presenting such a blunt scenario would be rejected by a girl with even a hint of integrity. If he wants to steal a guys gf he needs to go slow and establish a higher value than the bf. Otherwise he will just come off like a selfish douche working a neanderthal like line on her.

Unless The girl is an easy slut ? This sounds like you have contempt for women that like to have sex with a few partners.

Do you feel the same way about guys ?

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She already knows he is not a douche, since dude spends like 1-2 hrs a night gabbing with her on friendly talk.

Life is too short to waste on keeping feelings repressed. If she says no, so what? At least dude will have his answer, and then maybe he can stop wasting so much time on this bs. And who knows, maybe she secretly wants to ditch her current boyfriend and is waiting for this new guy to start showing some balls. Fortune favors the bold.

Perception can change. Even people who know each other years and get married can change perspective on the other and see them as trash based on one specific action. Talking to someone nightly for 2 weeks doesn't make you immune to destroying your character.

And yeah life is short but it doesn't mean he has to be stupid. It isn't wasting time. Meaningful relationships take time to build. Aka more than 2 weeks. Speaking to a female can be seen the same way she sees speaking to a male. Maybe she sees them as two people actually enjoying normal conversation and unlike internet boys she isn't assuming that this automatically means romance xD In other words life is about timing and how you present yourself. If you want up to a girl on the street and after 10 minutes of chatter rip out that deep talk trying to steal her away from her bf you come off like a creep. 2 weeks later its still the same. If he is going to steal her away he needs to talk to her long enough for them to establish something that makes him seem more appealing than the current. The current is likely working on months or years of build up.

I agree with you he needs to be bold but it has rules. You cant just walk up to a girl with a bf and steal with boldness without first giving her reason to truly consider you.

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Unless The girl is an easy slut ? This sounds like you have contempt for women that like to have sex with a few partners.

Do you feel the same way about guys ?

"Unless the girl is an easy slut if you are a guy you should never go up to a girl with a boyfriend and and casually ask if she is into you."

I was implying girls who have boyfriends but get with other guys are sluts. Do you think they aren't?

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Thanks for your original and worthy contribution to this conversation. Can you string other words together on your own, or are you strictly limited to whatever the latest internet fad is for expressing yourself?

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Thanks for your original and worthy contribution to this conversation. Can you string other words together on your own, or are you strictly limited to whatever the latest internet fad is for expressing yourself?

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But seriously why so cynical?

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"Unless the girl is an easy slut if you are a guy you should never go up to a girl with a boyfriend and and casually ask if she is into you."

I was implying girls who have boyfriends but get with other guys are sluts. Do you think they aren't?

I would/have never called a girl/woman a slut in the first place.

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I would/have never called a girl/woman a slut in the first place.

I never called her one. Hence why I said "unless" and created a stipulation. If she cheats on her boyfriend she is a slut. If she doesn't cheat then she isn't. Honestly you jumped the gun in thinking this had anything to do with the number of people she had sex with (which never came up) and how it compares to males who have lots of sex (which also had nothing to do with the topic).

All I was saying is if she would cheat on her boyfriend with someone she has been talking to for 2 weeks she would be low class.

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maybe the right question is "does you really like this girl?"

reflect about these things:

1) does she talks with you only about her problems or she talks about everything including funny things?

2) does she call you by nickname refering to a cute/sexy nickname or just a nickname reflecting your persona?

3) does she reffer to her boyfriend as a normal man or some sort of "prince"?

4) someday she ever told you about problems involving she and her boyfriend?

5) how good/bad is her relationship with her boyfriend?

6) how good is the relationship between you two?

7) did she ever mentioned, even remotely or just for fun, something erotic/sexy?

8) who end the conversation?

9) how deep your conversation go with her? it is just a casual conversation or things go deep inside what you´re talking about?

10) does she have marriage plans with her current boyfriend?

if the results for most of these questions are "YES" (or something like this) so she doesn´t like you...

she only sees you as a "troubleshooter" or "the key guy". means she talks with you only when she has problems that her boyfriend can´t solve or when he doesn´t care. so she talks with you because you´re her last choice to find a solution...

had this problem before. then I said "f$&$ you" and moved on...

if a girl really likes you and if she is ready to have a strong relationship with you she will do it. if she feels confortable with her current boyfriend so it means she will not see you as a partner, she will see you just as a "guy that she has some casual conversation"...

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I never called her one. Hence why I said "unless" and created a stipulation. If she cheats on her boyfriend she is a slut. If she doesn't cheat then she isn't. Honestly you jumped the gun in thinking this had anything to do with the number of people she had sex with (which never came up) and how it compares to males who have lots of sex (which also had nothing to do with the topic).

All I was saying is if she would cheat on her boyfriend with someone she has been talking to for 2 weeks she would be low class.

Dude you used the word when talking about a woman.

Here is some dictionary meaning's of the word you used ,

Often Offensive A person considered to be sexually promiscuous. 2. Archaic. a. A woman prostitute. b. An untidy, dirty woman; a slattern

Love the urban dic's def

a woman with the morals of a man ........ Someone who provides a very needed service for the community

As the first def states it is offensive , and no I would not call a woman a slut for having sex with some one other than her boyfriend.

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Dude you used the word when talking about a woman.

Here is some dictionary meaning's of the word you used ,

Often Offensive A person considered to be sexually promiscuous. 2. Archaic. a. A woman prostitute. b. An untidy, dirty woman; a slattern

Love the urban dic's def

a woman with the morals of a man ........ Someone who provides a very needed service for the community

As the first def states it is offensive , and no I would not call a woman a slut for having sex with some one other than her boyfriend.

*sigh* pardon me for not being politically correct I thought I made it clear what I meant though. Growing up and to this day I still see girls who cheat referred to as sluts both by males and females. Allow me to amend my statement.

Unless the girl is a (insert whatever derogatory term is used for women who cheat) you should never go up to a girl and ask if she is into you.

In other words... it's stupid to put a girl in a position to cheat unless you think she is a (insert previous politically correct term here).

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*sigh* pardon me for not being politically correct I thought I made it clear what I meant though. Growing up and to this day I still see girls who cheat referred to as sluts both by males and females. Allow me to amend my statement.

Unless the girl is a (insert whatever derogatory term is used for women who cheat) you should never go up to a girl and ask if she is into you.

In other words... it's stupid to put a girl in a position to cheat unless you think she is a (insert previous politically correct term here).

I see people doing lots of stupid crap , I do not feel the urge to copy them.

The most commonly word used for women who have sex with some one other than their partner is cheat.

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I see people doing lots of stupid sh!t , I do not feel the urge to copy them.

The most commonly word used for women who have sex with some one other than their partner is cheat.

Words are defined/made up by people. Most of modern language is based on evolving slang. If a lot of people start using a term in a specific way it expands the definition. Sections of the internet can be ultra picky though. To me a girl who cheats on her boyfriend is still a slut (as well as a cheater and various other terms).

But I have no problem bending the knee on CDC. I am sure him recklessly confusing deep feelings to a girl he has vaguely rekindled with for 2 weeks will up and leave her boyfriend for him and completely not find such an act disgraceful.

Good luck to you OP. I stand by what I said but it seems the majority feels otherwise.

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Words are defined/made up by people. Most of modern language is based on evolving slang. If a lot of people start using a term in a specific way it expands the definition. Sections of the internet can be ultra picky though. To me a girl who cheats on her boyfriend is still a slut (as well as a cheater and various other terms).

But I have no problem bending the knee on CDC. I am sure him recklessly confusing deep feelings to a girl he has vaguely rekindled with for 2 weeks will up and leave her boyfriend for him and completely not find such an act disgraceful.

Good luck to you OP. I stand by what I said but it seems the majority feels otherwise

Dude that word when associated with women has always had and always will have offensive , negative connotations.

Tell me would you call your mother a slut to her face if she cheated on her partner/husband/boyfriend ?

Your sister ?

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Dude that word when associated with women has always had and always will have offensive , negative connotations.

Tell me would you call your mother a slut to her face if she cheated on her partner/husband/boyfriend ?

Your sister ?

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