Sorry to hear about your loss, Hippy. I've been lucky as no one I know has perished due to the virus. I do have multiple family members in healthcare though, so I worry about them and my elderly parents quite a lot. My family in healthcare tell me of some harrowing situations they've witnessed, and I believe them. They have no reason to lie to me, and I have no reason not to trust them.
I have three kids (one in elementary and two in secondary) who I'm also concerned about. I work from home, so I'm as lucky as one can get from that perspective, and I don't take it for granted.
I hear the argument regarding civil liberties, and I ask myself, what liberty is really at stake? The freedom to not wear a mask? Is that really a serious detriment to personal freedom? Maybe not being able to see a concert or game? Is that really the sign of our freedoms being eroded? Were there a lot of people worried about their civil liberties during the Spanish Flu?