This is a phenomenal post. I listened to the Revisionist History podcast by Malcolm Gladwell a few months ago, particularly the episode “Free Brian Williams”, which focuses particularly on our memories and how we can’t even trust our own memories at times. How we are so convinced of the truth of a situation, that it is actually not a lie to us, nor do we intend to lie. The event has been changed by so many factors, that we are convinced something happened a certain way.
That’s why I also try and subscribe to this...
Both of these posts are terrific.
I’ve discussed this horrible Burnaby event with my wife, and she is 100% terrified because she knows how her brain works (tunnel vision), and so used to a schedule, that she could see herself making the exact same awful move, because she’s not used to dropping our child off at daycare. That’s all on me to pick up and drop off. That’s my routine.
Not an excuse for something absolutely life shattering, but I am not the person to throw stones on this one.