You'll lose respect for a player for asking the team to honour a contract/terms negotiated in good faith? Really?!
I don't get this condemnation of players who choose to NOT disrupt their family life mid-season given they have earned the contractual right to make a decision during the off-season when school is out etc. etc. Give the guy a break (any guy who doesn't "waive" a clause) as he earned it and he simply used it, if he signs elsewhere, in a manner he felt best for his family situation. If anything, from my perspective, people like that DESERVE your respect. I guess we view respect much differently.