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So, a very good friend of mine was in a relationship with a guy about a year and a half ago. He fell in love with her, but the depth of the relationship was not returened on her part, though she did lead him to believe that she had had very strong feelings for him. She ended the relationship and thought everything was done with........the man moved back to the UK.

Recently, he's begun a campaign of threats and intimidation against her, posting personal info about her on FB (he made a false acount and friended a large number of her friends), and is threatening even more. He is very skilled with computers and knows a lot about her, her life, and about the people in her life that she never told him, and is wanting her to suffer.

She has talked to him recently, apologizing for the way the things ended and for leading him to believe her feelings were stronger than they actually were. He said he appreciated the apology and would cease the thretening activity. However, he has started up again, sending very threatening emails to her new BF about how something big is coming in 3-6 months and he'll see who is in charge etc etc.......she's at her wits end and is terrified that he is going to start posting intimate details of theeir relationship to friends and family, or worse, show up ather door one night.

Does anyone know what recourse she has. She fears that because he is out of country, she has no legal avenue to pursue.

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So, a very good friend of mine was in a relationship with a guy about a year and a half ago.  He fell in love with her, but the depth of the relationship was not returened on her part, though she did lead him to believe that she had had very strong feelings for him.  She ended the relationship and thought everything was done with........the man moved back to the UK.

Recently, he's begun a campaign of threats and intimidation against her, posting personal info about her on FB (he made a false acount and friended a large number of her friends), and is threatening even more.  He is very skilled with computers and knows a lot about her, her life, and about the people in her life that she never told him, and is wanting her to suffer.

She has talked to him recently, apologizing for the way the things ended and for leading him to believe her feelings were stronger than they actually were.  He said he appreciated the apology and would cease the thretening activity.  However, he has started up again, sending very threatening emails to her new BF about how something big is coming in 3-6 months and he'll see who is in charge etc etc.......she's at her wits end and is terrified that he is going to start posting intimate details of theeir relationship to friends and family, or worse, show up ather door one night.

Does anyone know what recourse she has.  She fears that because he is out of country, she has no legal avenue to pursue.

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Wtf?

Tell her to go to her local police.

Provide the information.

They'll contact his local police.

If not, she can contact his local police.

Trust me, she can do something about this.

Just because you're breaking a law in a different country, and the victim is in another country doesn't mean it's OK.

If I threatened to kill you, and I lived in the states, the police wouldn't be like "oh, well, he's american... the hell are we supposed to do?"

I remember seeing a thread about a girl in vancouver (i believe) who saved a guy from commiting suicide in the UK (I believe).

Anyways, he posted his fairwell or something online, and she contacted the guys local police, and they got there before he managed to do it.

Anyways, slap your friend in the face and tell her to call the cops.

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I would highly recommened making a report to the police, even if they are unable to pursue the matter overseas at least they have a record of this individual.

If he did try to harm her she would be able to pursue it further with the police.

Nothing may come of it and he goes away but I would still have her make a report.

Also save any emails, chats, voice messages etc.

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Reminds me of a story about a couple in highschool, the girl who broke up with her boyfriend and the next day sent him a picture of her in bed with another guy... he forwarded the picture to her dad.

If she's actually been threatened by email in anyway shape or form, thats illegal and she needs to go to the police.

She should also seriously think about the lack of privacy people have these days and learn a lesson from it (not trying to blame her, I'm sure there's plenty of that going around, but honestly it's similar to all the people during the riots who had their faces plastered everywhere... different circumstances sure, but the point is the same - protect yourself, and don't have 400+ friends on FB who can know everything about you).

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This is why i don't, and never will, use facebook or any other social media. Just a recipe for crap like this. Seriously how many innocent teens lives are ruined over FB not to mention how many suicides you hear. Sad, but I am glad it wasn't around when i was in school.

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This is why i don't, and never will, use facebook or any other social media. Just a recipe for crap like this. Seriously how many innocent teens lives are ruined over FB not to mention how many suicides you hear. Sad, but I am glad it wasn't around when i was in school.

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So, a very good friend of mine was in a relationship with a guy about a year and a half ago. He fell in love with her, but the depth of the relationship was not returened on her part, though she did lead him to believe that she had had very strong feelings for him. She ended the relationship and thought everything was done with........the man moved back to the UK.

Recently, he's begun a campaign of threats and intimidation against her, posting personal info about her on FB (he made a false acount and friended a large number of her friends), and is threatening even more. He is very skilled with computers and knows a lot about her, her life, and about the people in her life that she never told him, and is wanting her to suffer.

She has talked to him recently, apologizing for the way the things ended and for leading him to believe her feelings were stronger than they actually were. He said he appreciated the apology and would cease the thretening activity. However, he has started up again, sending very threatening emails to her new BF about how something big is coming in 3-6 months and he'll see who is in charge etc etc.......she's at her wits end and is terrified that he is going to start posting intimate details of theeir relationship to friends and family, or worse, show up ather door one night.

Does anyone know what recourse she has. She fears that because he is out of country, she has no legal avenue to pursue.

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