People do what they're good at and avoid things they're bad at

[Mainly Mattias]

When people get early success, they receive good feedback and then like to continue what they're doing. When people don't get early success and, instead, get negative feedback, they are conditioned to avoid doing it so as to not feel poorly about themselves.

1. Would you agree?

2. How can you tell where the line is where you should try, try again after failure or where you should bail because you're just not cut out for it?

[Lillooet_Hillbilly]

every new job you will suck but will get better, this logic seems flawed

[Derp...]

Agree, I do it for sure. Everyone likes to feel confident in what they do. Some people need reassurance from others that they are good enough and some can convince themselves, and in turn others that what they do is good enough.

Being able to accept negative feedback as constructive is difficult for many. It's a learning process to take that and turn it into bettering yourself.

Some people can do it easily some people need a lot of support and positive feedback surrounding it. People do what they are good at because it safe. No harm in that really, just sad to see some get stuck doing things that don't make them happy, or enable happiness.

There is no set line for measuring your own potential success. Every skill is learnable, but the effort involved changes. If the thing your not good at yet is something that you really value and will help you achieve your goals in life as well as overall happiness. Then don't give up until you've proven to yourself that you've tried the absolute best you can. Even then you don't have to give up at all, just make a slight change in direction. What do you value? How do you get there? No matter what it's going to be hard work.

It's not about how you do something, it's about why you do something.

[Absent Canuck]

When people get early success, they receive good feedback and then like to continue what they're doing. When people don't get early success and, instead, get negative feedback, they are conditioned to avoid doing it so as to not feel poorly about themselves.

1. Would you agree?

2. How can you tell where the line is where you should try, try again after failure or where you should bail because you're just not cut out for it?

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

[spook007]

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

It may not make you rich, but it will most likely give you a much happier life +1

[Jai604]

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

Wise words indeed, but my question then, is how does one go about KNOWING oneself?

I don't know if it's that easy to find out.

[etsen3]

2. How can you tell where the line is where you should try, try again after failure or where you should bail because you're just not cut out for it?

You can't always tell where the line is. It's how bad you want it. If it's something you really want, you would probably be motivated to keep trying over and over again until you succeed. If it's an activity someone else was making you do, then you would be more likely to quit early or not even attempt it in the first place. Why waste tons of effort towards something that doesn't get you what you really want?

[Tearloch7]

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

Wise words .. "to thine own self be true", and happiness can be yours.

[Tearloch7]

Wise words indeed, but my question then, is how does one go about KNOWING oneself?

I don't know if it's that easy to find out.

By testing yourself, especially against your 'fears' .. peyote or LSD will speed up the process, if you are so inclined ..

[c00kies]

It's important to be reinforced for things you're not good at right away, at least until natural reinforcement occurs.

A young baseball player is NOT going to start hitting balls right away, but with praise for his efforts, will continue on until he finally is able to hit the ball (natural reinforcement).

If he is punished for missing the ball he will likely avoid the punisher and the sport altogether.

[Magikal]

I agree most people follow this trend. I am proud to not be one of them. I force myself to take part in things I am scared of not skilled at so that I may develop more as a person and improve my skillsets (this is especially true for my career)

I believe in being unreasonable and this includes with myself. I need to continuously push myself and obstacles that are in my way in order to grow. Fear is a good thing, it means you are pushing yourself to new limits. Being comfortable with the status quo is the scary thing as that likely means you are not willing to push yourself to grow and improve. The fear of becoming like that is what motivates me to continue to try new things and push my limits.

Fear = motivation.

[Mainly Mattias]

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

that's an ideal situation. i've found that most people don't know what they want to be or do. people just end up following the path that meets society's expectations of them from what they were good at in school and then flowed into to their default careers. good at english? ok, then law school. good at science? ok, then phd. doctor. i hate these other things, so by power of elimination, business school.

Wise words indeed, but my question then, is how does one go about KNOWING oneself?

I don't know if it's that easy to find out.

now that's the million dollar question.

[Rypien37]

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

Respekk

[Undrafted]

By testing yourself, especially against your 'fears' .. peyote or LSD will speed up the process, if you are so inclined ..

I think it's worth mentioning that this only works if you make an effort to seek those answers while under the influence.

Far too many people partake with only an amusement park ride in mind.

[Offensive Threat]

I dont know how old you are but please take some advise from me. You will instantly WIN whereas it will take your friends a decade or more to figure it out.

KNOW thyself. Not the person your parents want you to be. Not the guy you want to be or you wished you were. The guy deep down inside you know you are.

Then go get a career based on what that guy loves to do. Dont worry if it makes a bunch of money or your parents approve.

This is something that I get a lot of flack for saying sometimes but the "do something you enjoy even if you wont make much money" line only works to an extent. Especially for people going into Uni. Dont study what interests you. Find a real career that interests you and study what will get you there. You will need money down the road when a spouse and kids and house come into play. Enjoying your job may become a lot less enjoyable when it wont provide what you want for your family.

[Rypien37]

This is something that I get a lot of flack for saying sometimes but the "do something you enjoy even if you wont make much money" line only works to an extent. Especially for people going into Uni. Dont study what interests you. Find a real career that interests you and study what will get you there. You will need money down the road when a spouse and kids and house come into play. Enjoying your job may become a lot less enjoyable when it wont provide what you want for your family.

Not everyone has to have a family/kids/house/white picket fence.