Twilight Sparkle Posted September 16, 2018 Author Share Posted September 16, 2018 8 minutes ago, Cramarossa said: Using social media just makes me feel bad about myself. I just use Facebook as a meme hub for my friends and I xD 1 Link to comment
Wilbur Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 18 hours ago, 112 said: I lost a friend today. We both come from rough backgrounds, share suicidal thoughts/ideation and have made attempts. Over the past few weeks and earlier in the day, she expressed wishes to end her life and asked me to examine bridges and rooftops with her as prospective locations for jumping. Then, she asked me to walk with her to a bridge, and I agreed as I thought it would be safer than if she went alone. I asked her if she was simply going to inspect the bridge or if she was intending to jump, and she issued me a playful shrug. After a bit, I made the decision to contact police, dialing 911 and explaining to the operator the situation. They came and spoke with her through her partner who was translating (my (former) friend is mute) and after a short dialogue decided not to take her in. She then sent me rude messages on Discord, which was our main platform for communication, saying that I'm a '$&!# human being' and deserving of 10,000 times the pain I caused her. I'm fine with my choice to speak to the police authorities on a logical and rational level, but this hurts deeply on an emotional one. No ifs, ands, or buts, calling the police was the right call. Trying to save someone is not a @#$% thing to do. 1 Link to comment
Wilbur Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 15 hours ago, Cramarossa said: Using social media just makes me feel bad about myself. Yeah, barely anybody posts their actual lives on social media just what they think people want to see. One of the reasons why CDC is about the extent of my social media usage. Link to comment
RWMc1 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 18 hours ago, 112 said: I lost a friend today. We both come from rough backgrounds, share suicidal thoughts/ideation and have made attempts. Over the past few weeks and earlier in the day, she expressed wishes to end her life and asked me to examine bridges and rooftops with her as prospective locations for jumping. Then, she asked me to walk with her to a bridge, and I agreed as I thought it would be safer than if she went alone. I asked her if she was simply going to inspect the bridge or if she was intending to jump, and she issued me a playful shrug. After a bit, I made the decision to contact police, dialing 911 and explaining to the operator the situation. They came and spoke with her through her partner who was translating (my (former) friend is mute) and after a short dialogue decided not to take her in. She then sent me rude messages on Discord, which was our main platform for communication, saying that I'm a '$&!# human being' and deserving of 10,000 times the pain I caused her. I'm fine with my choice to speak to the police authorities on a logical and rational level, but this hurts deeply on an emotional one. She feels betrayed. You should let her know that the only reason that you did that was because you care about her a lot and you didn't want to lose her. Also, let her know that you are still there for her if she needs you to be. 1 Link to comment
J-23 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 Cardi B is lowkey lit af. Link to comment
MattJVD Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 On 9/15/2018 at 4:05 PM, 112 said: I lost a friend today. We both come from rough backgrounds, share suicidal thoughts/ideation and have made attempts. Over the past few weeks and earlier in the day, she expressed wishes to end her life and asked me to examine bridges and rooftops with her as prospective locations for jumping. Then, she asked me to walk with her to a bridge, and I agreed as I thought it would be safer than if she went alone. I asked her if she was simply going to inspect the bridge or if she was intending to jump, and she issued me a playful shrug. After a bit, I made the decision to contact police, dialing 911 and explaining to the operator the situation. They came and spoke with her through her partner who was translating (my (former) friend is mute) and after a short dialogue decided not to take her in. She then sent me rude messages on Discord, which was our main platform for communication, saying that I'm a '$&!# human being' and deserving of 10,000 times the pain I caused her. I'm fine with my choice to speak to the police authorities on a logical and rational level, but this hurts deeply on an emotional one. That sucks dude, I think you made the right call. Hopefully she'll see it that way once she is a little more separated (time-wise) from the incident. 1 Link to comment
MattJVD Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 On 9/10/2018 at 6:42 PM, Svengali said: I haven't told any other friends about this and it may be a while before I do. Need to get it off my chest and read any possible replies from you guys: I have a close friend who spends every summer with me and on Friday at the airport she asked during a very emotional goodbye if I'd consider marrying her so she could emigrate from her country to live here. She didn't want to go back home, she didn't want to leave me and our mutual friends, she considers BC her "real home" now, she considers my place home. So now I'm sitting here considering it ... She's a really good friend, we get along incredibly well, we spend all day together for up to two months at a time and no ones been murdered yet, and I am not dead-set against her idea, but our relationship is platonic. I'm the one who "friend-zoned" her, so to speak, 5 years ago (yes that's a crappy looking thing to type but it is what it is, I'm not into having a romantic relationship with her). She said we'd still remain just friends if we do get married. I'm still in a kind of daze. But I mean, we're grownups, mature people, I could do it for her and our friendship. But then there is that weird side to this ... the side which may sound cold or selfish but um, let's say we do get married (a platonic marriage) and I meet and fall for some other woman, then what? We'll have to get "amicably" divorced. I'll have to somehow bring that up with her soon in our conversations. How weird will that be ... And how weird will it be to be divorced?.. Any future girlfriend of mine would be hanging out with me and "my ex-wife" ... But then again, we're adults, life is so silly and things like this really shouldn't be a hang-up ... Honestly I believe that if this was another friend of mine, the one who is a total "free spirit" and travels a lot I'd probably agree to it right away because it would be hilarious, me and her would laugh over the marriage and divorce forever. But with the friend mentioned above, well, it's a bit different, I think (but am not 100% positive) she may still have romantic feelings for me (I feel like I'm cutting her down behind her back here, that's not my intention), so it makes this a much more difficult decision. I know she has it in her to laugh off a divorce in time but would it secretly crush her as well? Am I being an egomaniac right now?.. It's all so strange. Can someone please make me a drink? Man, that's a lot to ask. May I ask what country she is from and what her education level is? Immigrating to Canada isn't all that hard, we're not Iceland. I don't think I'd be able to do that. Maybe I'm old fashioned about marriage, but I would not get married unless I loved the person (in a romantic and companionship way) and intended to spend the rest of my life in that marriage. Link to comment
Master 112 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 On 9/16/2018 at 1:47 PM, Wilbur said: No ifs, ands, or buts, calling the police was the right call. Trying to save someone is not a @#$% thing to do. On 9/16/2018 at 2:03 PM, RWMc1 said: She feels betrayed. You should let her know that the only reason that you did that was because you care about her a lot and you didn't want to lose her. Also, let her know that you are still there for her if she needs you to be. 1 hour ago, MattJVD said: That sucks dude, I think you made the right call. Hopefully she'll see it that way once she is a little more separated (time-wise) from the incident. Thanks for the words, guys- she definitely does feel betrayed and explicated as much to me. It was a very difficult decision but I'm content with knowing I acted to protect a friend, even if it did have these consequences to that friendship. Link to comment
Putgolzin Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 19 hours ago, 112 said: Thanks for the words, guys- she definitely does feel betrayed and explicated as much to me. It was a very difficult decision but I'm content with knowing I acted to protect a friend, even if it did have these consequences to that friendship. Right. You opened with "I lost a friend" - I thought the story was ending with the conclusion that she had followed through on her plan. Because of your unwavering commitment to your friend she's not "lost" in that horrible sense. 1 Link to comment
Master 112 Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 (edited) 48 minutes ago, nzan said: Right. You opened with "I lost a friend" - I thought the story was ending with the conclusion that she had followed through on her plan. Because of your unwavering commitment to your friend she's not "lost" in that horrible sense. Oh geez, wasn't thinking when I wrote that. She's still alive afaik. I don't know if she would've followed through with it had I not called, but I'm happy I didn't have to find out. Knowing her, I don't think she's ever going to speak with me again, although I hope time tempers her and she's willing to reconnect one day as others have predicted will happen. I was pretty aware of what would result from my contacting police--that she would not be happy--but had to do it regardless. Edited September 18, 2018 by 112 1 1 1 Link to comment
Putgolzin Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 2 hours ago, 112 said: Oh geez, wasn't thinking when I wrote that. She's still alive afaik. I don't know if she would've followed through with it had I not called, but I'm happy I didn't have to find out. Knowing her, I don't think she's ever going to speak with me again, although I hope time tempers her and she's willing to reconnect one day as others have predicted will happen. I was pretty aware of what would result from my contacting police--that she would not be happy--but had to do it regardless. Absolutely you did. Way to be strong for your friend despite the outcome. 1 Link to comment
Svengali Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 On 9/17/2018 at 12:41 PM, MattJVD said: Man, that's a lot to ask. May I ask what country she is from and what her education level is? Immigrating to Canada isn't all that hard, we're not Iceland. I don't think I'd be able to do that. Maybe I'm old fashioned about marriage, but I would not get married unless I loved the person (in a romantic and companionship way) and intended to spend the rest of my life in that marriage. She's Australian, went to college or uni (I don't remember the details) but is not qualified for skilled entry according to Immigration Canada. Another major setback (and the main difference between her and the two million Aussie snow-bogans currently living in Whistler) is that she is now over the age limit (35) for a work visa which would have enabled her to come over and work/live here for two years and then apply for permanent resident status. She also lacks immediate family in Canada. Doesn't have the $400,000 in cash lying around for the "Investment Into Canada" instant citizenship bribe either ... She's definitely running out of options. On 9/15/2018 at 4:24 PM, gurn said: Be very careful, if you do marry this lady, then divorce her to marry a lady you do love and then that relationship sours into a "true" divorce the newest ex may report your previous marriage as a sham. ..…... On 9/15/2018 at 4:36 PM, Jimmy McGill said: ... Any assets you acquire while married will be split. May be fine at the beginning but if things get sour that could become an issue for you later e.g., if you get into the housing market while married and she decides to want 1/2. Link to comment
brilac Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 I confess ~ Today while on my lunch break I was walking, and this handsome man was looking at me and smiling. I looked at him, and thought, handsome. Then he says - This is going to sound weird, but you are beautiful. I didn't know what to do, so I said - oh, thank you. Then anxiety came over me, so I casually waved and walked faster before he could ask me what my name was, or anything like that. Fail, big time. hahahahaha! Maybe I will see him again. I might say hi. He is a handsome fella. 1 1 Link to comment
Wilbur Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 49 minutes ago, brilac said: I confess ~ Today while on my lunch break I was walking, and this handsome man was looking at me and smiling. I looked at him, and thought, handsome. Then he says - This is going to sound weird, but you are beautiful. I didn't know what to do, so I said - oh, thank you. Then anxiety came over me, so I casually waved and walked faster before he could ask me what my name was, or anything like that. Fail, big time. hahahahaha! Maybe I will see him again. I might say hi. He is a handsome fella. Sounds like a page from my playbook of my 12 - 27 year old self. Link to comment
Master 112 Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 1 hour ago, brilac said: I confess ~ Today while on my lunch break I was walking, and this handsome man was looking at me and smiling. I looked at him, and thought, handsome. Then he says - This is going to sound weird, but you are beautiful. I didn't know what to do, so I said - oh, thank you. Then anxiety came over me, so I casually waved and walked faster before he could ask me what my name was, or anything like that. Fail, big time. hahahahaha! Maybe I will see him again. I might say hi. He is a handsome fella. Try missed connections? Link to comment
brilac Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 19 minutes ago, Wilbur said: Sounds like a page from my playbook of my 12 - 27 year old self. Yeah, that's me. Once I gave a guy my phone number. I don't know what I was thinking. Then he texted me, and I told him that I really don't date, that I'm boring. I don't go to the bars. I go home, and work on my quilt, and hang with the cat. And I'm a snob, all my handbags are designer. I didn't tell him that all at once, it was in segments, and I eat at fancy restaurants. 5 minutes ago, 112 said: Try missed connections? Maybe I'll go walking on my lunch break at the same time. If we work in the same area, maybe I'll see him. Link to comment
Salacious Crumb Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 11 hours ago, brilac said: Yeah, that's me. Once I gave a guy my phone number. I don't know what I was thinking. Then he texted me, and I told him that I really don't date, that I'm boring. I don't go to the bars. I go home, and work on my quilt, and hang with the cat. And I'm a snob, all my handbags are designer. I didn't tell him that all at once, it was in segments, and I eat at fancy restaurants. Maybe I'll go walking on my lunch break at the same time. If we work in the same area, maybe I'll see him. If you have positive thoughts and put your intentions “out there” you just might get what you desire. Link to comment
Shift-4 Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 14 hours ago, brilac said: I confess ~ Today while on my lunch break I was walking, and this handsome man was looking at me and smiling. I looked at him, and thought, handsome. Then he says - This is going to sound weird, but you are beautiful. I didn't know what to do, so I said - oh, thank you. Then anxiety came over me, so I casually waved and walked faster before he could ask me what my name was, or anything like that. Fail, big time. hahahahaha! Maybe I will see him again. I might say hi. He is a handsome fella. I have a theory on this Spoiler Chicks are nuts 2 Link to comment
Master 112 Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 4 minutes ago, Shift-4 said: I have a theory on this Reveal hidden contents Chicks are nuts Chicks are baby birds. Link to comment
Salacious Crumb Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 44 minutes ago, 112 said: Chicks are baby birds. That are as addictive as crack... Link to comment
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