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22 hours ago, Shift-4 said:

Bought Bladerunner 2049

*Watched* it on Saturday

Played it at regular volume

Regular volume was incredibly loud

Neighbour came over to ask to turn it down around 11PM

I woke her little girl several times.

I felt so bad. Hated being that guy.

Bought her flowers and a little stuffed animal for her daughter the next day.

I feel much better as a human being now.

 

Can you be my neighbour? All mine does is sing karaoke at max volume everyday and he's terribly off-key. 

 

 

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I confess ~

 

The little ones are really not for me.  I tell others that I am going to be 50 years old, and have 3-4 cats, and they are all going to have spectacular names and be well taken care of. I will be a total cat lady! I am a cat lady in progress with the one cat. 

 

I just witnessed a child's birthday party while drinking my glass of champagne.  I don't mind dating men who have kids, when I do date, but no children of my own.  

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4 hours ago, Coconuts said:

I haven't bought a shirt in person that isn't a band shirt at a concert in 2-3 years. I buy shirts almost exclusively online now.

That reminds me.  I used to have this vintage Hole poster from the Live Through This era, and when I moved from the Olympic Peninsula to Seattle, it was gone.  

 

I had this Cindy Lauper poster signed.  I met her several years ago when, 2002 I think.  I had a boyfriend, and he took it when the relationship ended and moved out. 

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10 hours ago, brilac said:

That reminds me.  I used to have this vintage Hole poster from the Live Through This era, and when I moved from the Olympic Peninsula to Seattle, it was gone.  

 

I had this Cindy Lauper poster signed.  I met her several years ago when, 2002 I think.  I had a boyfriend, and he took it when the relationship ended and moved out. 

Damn, it's the worst when exes take your stuff and run

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On 10/3/2018 at 7:15 PM, brilac said:

The little ones are really not for me.  I tell others that I am going to be 50 years old, and have 3-4 cats, and they are all going to have spectacular names and be well taken care of. I will be a total cat lady! I am a cat lady in progress with the one cat.   

If you run into a cat named Patrick Kevin, he used to rule over my cousins' house until he wandered off.  Tell him we say 'hi'.

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Girlfriends are f***in hard. 

 

In some aspects I almost think marriage would be easier. There’s certainty to it. Not that I think you can kick your feet up and stop trying to foster growth in the relationship, but it’s just there. I’m in a new relationship, started dating in July and put the formal title of boyfriend/girlfriend on it in early September, and I find it painful at times. I think it’s really a combination of two things- I’m naturally a high anxiety person with a penchant for thinking the worst (something I’ve improved on greatly in recent years) and I got laid off from my job a month ago (working for a smaller city, jobs are quite seasonal for new folk like me). It’s just a bad combo. I feel like a bum, like I have no purpose. I tried to fill that void by doing some nice things for my girlfriend like dropping her off lunch I’d made for her or a coffee. I did this maybe twice a week. Then she told me it’s too much, she likes being independent, and stuff like this is a big part of the reason why she was hesitant to get into a relationship in the first place. I totally get it because I think I’d feel the same way if the roles were reversed. I know this apparent clinginess is a bad look for anybody but I just can’t help it- not necessarily the clingy part, but the caretaking part. I like doing it. I do it for my friends, my family, my dogs, etc. It brings me joy. 

 

She told me this last night. We went on a little group date today with her friends. Between what she told me, my car getting hit-and-runned last night while parked, and housetraining troubles with my puppy I’ve just been in a crap mood all day. I don’t think what’s she told me is a deathwish for the relationship at all. I think we just have different “love languages” and ways of expressing ourselves and we’ll sort that out in time. I’m just trying to make sense of it. 

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2 hours ago, Sean Monahan said:

Girlfriends are f***in hard. 

 

In some aspects I almost think marriage would be easier. There’s certainty to it. Not that I think you can kick your feet up and stop trying to foster growth in the relationship, but it’s just there. I’m in a new relationship, started dating in July and put the formal title of boyfriend/girlfriend on it in early September, and I find it painful at times. I think it’s really a combination of two things- I’m naturally a high anxiety person with a penchant for thinking the worst (something I’ve improved on greatly in recent years) and I got laid off from my job a month ago (working for a smaller city, jobs are quite seasonal for new folk like me). It’s just a bad combo. I feel like a bum, like I have no purpose. I tried to fill that void by doing some nice things for my girlfriend like dropping her off lunch I’d made for her or a coffee. I did this maybe twice a week. Then she told me it’s too much, she likes being independent, and stuff like this is a big part of the reason why she was hesitant to get into a relationship in the first place. I totally get it because I think I’d feel the same way if the roles were reversed. I know this apparent clinginess is a bad look for anybody but I just can’t help it- not necessarily the clingy part, but the caretaking part. I like doing it. I do it for my friends, my family, my dogs, etc. It brings me joy. 

 

She told me this last night. We went on a little group date today with her friends. Between what she told me, my car getting hit-and-runned last night while parked, and housetraining troubles with my puppy I’ve just been in a crap mood all day. I don’t think what’s she told me is a deathwish for the relationship at all. I think we just have different “love languages” and ways of expressing ourselves and we’ll sort that out in time. I’m just trying to make sense of it. 

It just sounds like you were being nice to me. Even though twice a week does seem like a high frequency, you were doing a kind deed. Obviously I don't know the whole situation, but sounds like she was more concerned with how you were spending your time off? 

 

For the record I always try to do those nice little extras for my gal, Even after 7 years. If that's how you are programmed, you gotta own it.Those kind of things shouldn't/can't be censored. That's how resentment breeds.

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6 minutes ago, shayster007 said:

It just sounds like you were being nice to me. Even though twice a week does seem like a high frequency, you were doing a kind deed. Obviously I don't know the whole situation, but sounds like she was more concerned with how you were spending your time off? 

 

For the record I always try to do those nice little extras for my gal, Even after 7 years. If that's how you are programmed, you gotta own it.Those kind of things shouldn't/can't be censored. That's how resentment breeds.

I admit it was maybe a bit much but it just felt like a good way to spend my time. I’d still fill my days with other things- housework, coaching, working out, errands/tasks, a bit of part time work. I’m trying to find a full time gig. It just seemed like a positive way to fill some of the remaining free time I had. 

 

What I find a little confusing is that I’ve done this sort of stuff all along, though not as often. Maybe once a week. Thing is, she’d do it too. Only now it’s become a problem. It baffles me. Makes me wonder if there’s something going on with her that she’s not telling me about. The worrywart part of me can’t help but think it’s a change of heart though I probably am reading too much into it

 

I’m working full time this week with my old job and hoping to hear back on a couple applications I put in last week. We’re both busy in the evenings all week and through the weekend so I probably won’t see her til next Sunday night at the earliest, though more likely next week. Kinda hoping this absence helps her out. 

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8 hours ago, Sean Monahan said:

I admit it was maybe a bit much but it just felt like a good way to spend my time. I’d still fill my days with other things- housework, coaching, working out, errands/tasks, a bit of part time work. I’m trying to find a full time gig. It just seemed like a positive way to fill some of the remaining free time I had. 

 

What I find a little confusing is that I’ve done this sort of stuff all along, though not as often. Maybe once a week. Thing is, she’d do it too. Only now it’s become a problem. It baffles me. Makes me wonder if there’s something going on with her that she’s not telling me about. The worrywart part of me can’t help but think it’s a change of heart though I probably am reading too much into it

 

I’m working full time this week with my old job and hoping to hear back on a couple applications I put in last week. We’re both busy in the evenings all week and through the weekend so I probably won’t see her til next Sunday night at the earliest, though more likely next week. Kinda hoping this absence helps her out. 

Sounds like a weird situation from the outside looking in. It doesn't sound like you were spending to much time focusing on her, you had many things on the ok with your time off. Is her work very stressful? Maybe she was having stressful days at work, and then you were showing up. She could have been thinking why does he have all this free time to come here and I can barely keep my head above water. I remember feeling this way before in similar situations. 

 

Sometimes a relationship just needs to work itself out, one way or another. 

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29 minutes ago, shayster007 said:

She could have been thinking why does he have all this free time to come here and I can barely keep my head above water. I remember feeling this way before in similar situations. 

That’s a good point. When I was still working full time I was just as busy as her, if not more so, but I typically handle stress pretty well. I don’t think she’s a person that does. 

 

We get along great in so many ways that I think we’ll sort it out. It’s still new and we’re trying to figure each other out to some extent. It’s just gut wrenching in the mean time. 

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