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another thing is that holy god, it's 2015. does anyone _really_ care if you're divorced these days? i mean, doesn't the stigma attached to divorce come from some weirdo religious thing or some puritanical 'gender norm' standards set in the 50s or 60s, like that women should be married by this point, or that men should be settling down at this time, etc.?

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not that high when you factor in that marriage is 'supposed to be' a life-long commitment between two individuals who have complex emotions, desires, constantly shifting personalities, etc.? the fact that so many of them work out, to me, is the crazy part.

when you factor in how many emotionally immature people get married, or how many people get married for the 'wrong' reasons, then i think it seems pretty damn optimistic

Guess i'm just the glass half empty type <_<

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Isn't it possible that unmarried men might be less "popular" with women and therefore resort to internet porn for gratification? No offense to any females reading this, but even my parents have been saying that a good percentage of women are looking for more in a man then previous generations. I actually know quite a few men who are seriously lacking in confidence when it comes to asking out a woman on a date.

No date = no girlfriend/wife = no sex = watch porn instead.

I blame Beyonce

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Probably because more and more women are fed up with men so they are marrying each other instead.

a greater percentage of same sex couples are male.. seems males are even more fed up.

With the laws as they currently are, with divorce rates as they are, with the vast majority of those divorces being brought by the woman, men are nuts to get married in this climate.

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I suppose not everyone has the same levels of endurance :emot-parrot:

I wouldn't even say its JUST urban places. Its pretty much everywhere. Considering how large the Asian population is in B.C., you'd think it would at least be more common around the province.

Personally, I really would consider it as a subtle form of racism or prejudice. I have a lot of male Asian friends, and i'm certainly not the only one who feels discriminated against when it comes to dating. Its kind of one of the BIG reasons I don't want to live here in the West... because it sucks to be a male Asian who finds people of other races attractive.

Is it racism or is it cultural when Asian males have trouble dating people of other races? On the flip side, Asian women have no trouble dating people of different races. You only to need to go to Vancouver's streets to see the large numbers of Asian women with Caucasian partners. The number of Asian men with Caucasian women seems much smaller.

Some studies suggest there are a lack of Asian male role models in North America society for this. Afterall, there not a single series on North American TV with an Asian lead in it.

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"Racism" against Asian men seems to be more of a persecution complex stemming from failed attempts rather than something institutional and oppressive. It's irksome to see that word tossed around everywhere, there are people getting wrongfully arrested or deported due to their ethnicity and people think a lack of anecdotal evidence of seeing Asian men in interracial relationships is a result of something hate filled.

However, I do think that the general perception of the typical Asian male is one that is quite emasculated and "pretty", like the K-pop stars, and perhaps that does not sit too well with girls past their teens. Of course, I am pointing out a stereotype that is often just used as a punchline in the same vein "bbc" and the overly masculine and attractive black man stereotype is thrown around. Women of all races love black men. Truth.

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Is it racism or is it cultural when Asian males have trouble dating people of other races? On the flip side, Asian women have no trouble dating people of different races. You only to need to go to Vancouver's streets to see the large numbers of Asian women with Caucasian partners. The number of Asian men with Caucasian women seems much smaller.

Some studies suggest there are a lack of Asian male role models in North America society for this. Afterall, there not a single series on North American TV with an Asian lead in it.

What about that horrible looking show on Comedy Central, where one owns a bar?! Totally forgot the name.
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I have no idea how old BananaMash and Florence actually are (their profiles say 20 & 24), but guarantee that their friends will sing a different tune in a few years. Nobody I knew in my early 20s was talking about marriage, but almost everyone I know now (in the 27-31 age bracket) is either married, engaged, or in a 'serious' long term relationship where marriage is actively discussed (to my knowledge)

I don't think it's an outdated practice at all...

I am 24. My friend age bracket is a bit wider though with the youngest person I associate with being 16 and the oldest being 34 with a mix in between. None of my friends are currently married but 2 sets are engaged. However one pair is only 19 and 22 and mainly doing it quickly without a ceremony so she can get the benefits they offer as a military wife.

I was pretty vague but I mainly just meant it's fading as something people see the need to do. Outdated may not be the best term but the concept and lure of marriage is changing. A lot of people would chase it because of gender roles, or religious appeal, social status, or simple because that was just what people do. In addition to the simple concept of getting married for love.

But with stuff like religion declining each generation, gender roles being blurred with more independent individuals of both sexes, and more social acceptance over alternative lifestyles you don't see as many people chasing marriage. If I am not mistaken marriage rates have been declining. Though on the plus marriage success rates have been rising as those who chose it are more committed.

While I am sure some who aren't interested now will change their minds with age I truly believe a lot of people will maintain a preferred independent lifestyle that they don't feel the need to mix in matters of love and romance. Also keep in mind you don't need to think about marriage even in a long term relationship. A friend of mine who is 25 currently has been in a committed relationship with his girlfriend since they were 13. No engagement or marriage coming yet they function like a married couple they simply don't want to mix their lives up legally and end up with the ugly legal issues divorces cause just in case they ever do grow apart.

If I worded that well. I feel society is showing more diversity and openness which matters of romance where more people are open to the idea of not getting married even if pursuing the lifestyle.

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"Racism" against Asian men seems to be more of a persecution complex stemming from failed attempts rather than something institutional and oppressive. It's irksome to see that word tossed around everywhere, there are people getting wrongfully arrested or deported due to their ethnicity and people think a lack of anecdotal evidence of seeing Asian men in interracial relationships is a result of something hate filled.

However, I do think that the general perception of the typical Asian male is one that is quite emasculated and "pretty", like the K-pop stars, and perhaps that does not sit too well with girls past their teens. Of course, I am pointing out a stereotype that is often just used as a punchline in the same vein "bbc" and the overly masculine and attractive black man stereotype is thrown around. Women of all races love black men. Truth.

There are various types of "racism", not all of them hatred. Just because another race gets "wrongfully arrested or deported", doesn't mean another situation should be put aside.

FYI, I happen to believe that in some cases, being ignored is more insulting then being hated.

Disagree that women of all races love black men. If you ever went over to eastern regions of Asia, quite a lot of women downright hate black people.

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My wife (of 10 years) and I both agree we would not legally tie the knot if we could do it over. We would still have done everything else the same, but no paperwork. It has nothing to do with internet porn, and I've been online since the days it took a minute to view each pic and you started around the 30second mark when a nip became visible.

In the absence of religion, what's the point?

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No engagement or marriage coming yet they function like a married couple they simply don't want to mix their lives up legally and end up with the ugly legal issues divorces cause just in case they ever do grow apart.

FWIW, common-law marriage (which is what it sounds like your friends are in) is actually MORE complicated to dissolve than "traditional" marriage given there's more vagaries and grey areas in the laws surrounding it. Particularly if one or both of the parties are disgruntled.

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"Racism" against Asian men seems to be more of a persecution complex stemming from failed attempts rather than something institutional and oppressive. It's irksome to see that word tossed around everywhere, there are people getting wrongfully arrested or deported due to their ethnicity and people think a lack of anecdotal evidence of seeing Asian men in interracial relationships is a result of something hate filled.

However, I do think that the general perception of the typical Asian male is one that is quite emasculated and "pretty", like the K-pop stars, and perhaps that does not sit too well with girls past their teens. Of course, I am pointing out a stereotype that is often just used as a punchline in the same vein "bbc" and the overly masculine and attractive black man stereotype is thrown around. Women of all races love black men. Truth.

unless those women happen to be from

Russia

Russia

Russia

Italy

Spain

Russia

Greece

China

Japan

Russia and its surrounding countries

did I say Russia?

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