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Women of all races love black white men. Truth.

you had a typo in your original statement so I fixed it. Also about the Asian thing I notice that Asian men from a Japanese Heritage tend to do well with dating. I have seen it at both school and work (with 5 different guys) so its not completely true that there is a prejudice against them or something. I think it depends on personality more then anything as all five of them are very outgoing.

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you had a typo in your original statement so I fixed it. Also about the Asian thing I notice that Asian men from a Japanese Heritage tend to do well with dating. I have seen it at both school and work (with 5 different guys) so its not completely true that there is a prejudice against them or something. I think it depends on personality more then anything as all five of them are very outgoing.

Believe me when I say this is more an exception then a truth. Then again we might live in different areas so my experiences are probably different. What I DO know is that here in Vancouver (I worked in the Downtown area for 5-6 years) seeing an Asian male with a white woman was something that, at most, I saw only 1-3 times a month. And this is a place that's allegedly more than 50% Asian. Same goes for Seattle and Washington, places that I frequent during summers.

But I digress, this whole who doesn't ever date whom from whatever group is getting off-topic, so i'll just leave this...

http://antifeministsite.blogspot.ca/2014/05/a-reason-why-marriage-is-bad-deal-for.html

First, i'd like to say I am NOT anti-feminist, its just an article I was linked to by a friend who's a Men's Rights Activist (he's not a woman hater though). Second of all, while I used to be a feminist myself, I no longer actively support it because these days I seem to meet more "feminazis" then actual feminists. The article itself can be pretty biased, but it does address one of the many reasons why marriage is a big risk for men. Not good for guys like me who want to marry and settle down in the future.

Edit: If anyone doesn't trust the link but is interested in reading the article, I can copy+paste it if anyone wants me to.

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As has been suggested both explicitly and implicitly in this thread, the study is most likely flawed and has the cause-effect reversed. Internet porn is more the effect, and less the cause; societal values are the real driving factor behind marriages. Always has been, always will be.

Absolutely.

There is some missing data in that study, surely.

I'll bring in my own anecdotal experience, which I know doesn't add any meaningful data.

Porn and masturbating to it is in no way more gratifying than having sex with a woman, at the very least; with making love to a woman being the best sexual experience. Porn is probably the lowest, so if these people (men and women) prefer watching porn to trying to meet and have, at the very least, sex with other people, I think it's a symptom of how societal values are changing, and not for the good.

It sounds like self-censorship and oppression--avoiding human contact and suppressing any attempt at physical interaction. Quite sad, really.

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Quickly scrolled, & I may have missed, but someone probably already offered the old adage: correlation does NOT prove causation.

A book review/analysis I read(a couple yrs back, sorry, forgotten title?)) was quite interesting, I recall. The data showed lower socio-economic couples having a much higher propensity to terminate their marriage; whereas the richer(1% types) were far less likely to get lawyers/the state involved. Had things more 'under control', if you will...

I mention this to magnify that financial success(sadly) often enables/facilitates social & relationship success. Therefore I'd reckon youth(from well-off backgrounds) are more apt to enter LT relationships with heightened expectations. They probably have the tools & resources to enter such commitments with more assertiveness & faith.

I say this last bit mostly in theory, as I'd like to hear other's 2 cents on such an extrapolation.

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I am 24. My friend age bracket is a bit wider though with the youngest person I associate with being 16 and the oldest being 34 with a mix in between. None of my friends are currently married but 2 sets are engaged. However one pair is only 19 and 22 and mainly doing it quickly without a ceremony so she can get the benefits they offer as a military wife.

I was pretty vague but I mainly just meant it's fading as something people see the need to do. Outdated may not be the best term but the concept and lure of marriage is changing. A lot of people would chase it because of gender roles, or religious appeal, social status, or simple because that was just what people do. In addition to the simple concept of getting married for love.

But with stuff like religion declining each generation, gender roles being blurred with more independent individuals of both sexes, and more social acceptance over alternative lifestyles you don't see as many people chasing marriage. If I am not mistaken marriage rates have been declining. Though on the plus marriage success rates have been rising as those who chose it are more committed.

While I am sure some who aren't interested now will change their minds with age I truly believe a lot of people will maintain a preferred independent lifestyle that they don't feel the need to mix in matters of love and romance. Also keep in mind you don't need to think about marriage even in a long term relationship. A friend of mine who is 25 currently has been in a committed relationship with his girlfriend since they were 13. No engagement or marriage coming yet they function like a married couple they simply don't want to mix their lives up legally and end up with the ugly legal issues divorces cause just in case they ever do grow apart.

If I worded that well. I feel society is showing more diversity and openness which matters of romance where more people are open to the idea of not getting married even if pursuing the lifestyle.

it's not a new trend.......I'm in my 40's and at least half my friends aren't married yet

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Asian male here,

I have a bunch asian male friends who are married or dating someone of asian decent.

I also have a handful of asian male friends who married a Caucasian women. out of the top of my head is 5, I can probably find 2 more if I scroll down my friends list on facebook.

The same for Asian women, it's probably around the same, asian women dating, a caucasion male, don't know any that are dating a black or something else.

so like black guys or white guys, most of them will get married out, some live a play life of sleeping with other women and don't want to settle down. One of my friends who live in the states, (asian male) prefers to be with a spanish girl or a caucasion women.

down there, asian girl will only marry someone rich, and those rich white guys always fall for it. but meh, 90% of asian males or sexually active.

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Pretty much this. I'm Asian myself and I can clarify that white and black women are almost guaranteed to say "no"... unless the woman's digging for gold you happen to have plenty of it.

I'm Chinese and I date white girls. My last 3 gf's are white. Ethnicity doesn't have much to do with it. I've been turned down many times by different types of girls of different races, but I never once thought it was because I was Chinese. Even if it was true, I never think about it. I just think that there was no connection. It's the mindset that needs to change for asian guys and also go out there with confidence. There are lots of non asian girls out there that would date an asian guy.

Back on topic. I don't think porn is the main factor. Main reason is people don't want to commit because it's so easy to find the next best partner. Porn has been around before the internet, so I don't think it's quite relevant. Sure it was harder to get back then, but if you really wanted to watch it, there were ways (ie Dad's VHS stash)

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More and more people want to wait until "later" to have children while others don't want children at all. That would also have an effect on marriage numbers. Many women are very money orientated and want to have more, more, more. Their expectations are very high. I will get slagged for this, but it is true!

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