Dazzle Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 This is the backstory. We have known each other for a long time, but only recently (about 2-3 weeks ago) reconnected, despite seeing each other (rarely) at family parties. We played when we were kids once - and I do have regrets that we did it more often than just that. From the last baby shower party, we talked again. We texted each other - and now, it's become a lot more regular. She's also the type to talk on the phone, so we've been doing that, talking for 1-2 hrs almost every night before we sleep. The problem is, she has a boyfriend - and she namedrops him A LOT (i.e. my bf does this/my bf does that, etc) YET... I think she's flirting with me too. - She hints that her bf is different from her. - She thinks our personalities are near identical (we also did a personality test for kicks and we had the same rating) - She calls me nicknames - She admits that she was nervous talking to me because of various reasons We've seen each other once, privately, but we were only playing card games. Other than that, she hasn't asked me to come see her (in any shape or form). I've suggested a drink or two, but she hasn't taken me up on those offers. Friendzoned or something more? I think the phone call thing is a bit amiss - I bet she doesn't do this with her bf. So... maybe, I'm that guy that she bitches to - when she's not with her bf. In other words, I am hopelessly friendzoned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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drummer4now Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 This is the backstory. We have known each other for a long time, but only recently (about 2-3 weeks ago) reconnected, despite seeing each other (rarely) at family parties. We played when we were kids once - and I do have regrets that we did it more often than just that. From the last baby shower party, we talked again. We texted each other - and now, it's become a lot more regular. She's also the type to talk on the phone, so we've been doing that, talking for 1-2 hrs almost every night before we sleep. The problem is, she has a boyfriend - and she namedrops him A LOT (i.e. my bf does this/my bf does that, etc) YET... I think she's flirting with me too. - She hints that her bf is different from her. - She thinks our personalities are near identical (we also did a personality test for kicks and we had the same rating) - She calls me nicknames - She admits that she was nervous talking to me because of various reasons We've seen each other once, privately, but we were only playing card games. Other than that, she hasn't asked me to come see her (in any shape or form). I've suggested a drink or two, but she hasn't taken me up on those offers. Friendzoned or something more? I think the phone call thing is a bit amiss - I bet she doesn't do this with her bf. So... maybe, I'm that guy that she bitches to - when she's not with her bf. In other words, I am hopelessly friendzoned. Here is the answer to your question... /thread But on a side note the italicized/underlined parts is why.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Never get involved with someone that's with someone else. It just doesn't work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WilliesStache14 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BananaMash Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Never get involved with someone that's with someone else. It just doesn't work. If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canuckster19 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. QFT! And yes friendzone, women love having a guy to air their problems to because they don't want women gossiping their problems to each other. Men generally don't do that because we forget what they told us because the only thing we're doing the entire time they're talking to us is imagining that the conversation is happening naked in a bed prior to or after intercourse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-AJ- Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 My guess it that she's sorta into you, but is having conflicting feelings, as she knows she should stay loyal to her BF. My advice is to just play it cool until she's single, if that time comes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Magician Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 FHRITP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shiznak Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Women like to toy with your emotions, just for fun. Dem b!tches. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desiboynux4lifee******* Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Okay dude, I'm going to tell you the truth take this with a grain of salt. Her boyfriend gives her everything she wants but a deep conservation connection. She ain't leaving her BF because she is simply using you to have someone talk to her. This is my two cents, sorry it may sound rude, but she shouldn't be leading you on if she has a bf. The reason she is, is because she is keeping you there to just to talk too. Meaning her bf fails to give her that conversation side of the relationship, so she seeks it from you. Use your own judgement. Her bf has her and what do you get? A measly phone conversation? Humans are very slick at being manipulative. Once again use your own judgement but this is my judgement, which won't be a famous opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WilliesStache14 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 disregard females acquire currency Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronalds.Kenins41 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Try not to get emotional with her especially since she has someone already. A wise man once told me "Men were given three choices to think with: a brain, a heart and a Dick but sadly, most men think with the last two, don't be one of those men" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drummer4now Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Okay dude, I'm going to tell you the truth take this with a grain of salt. Her boyfriend gives her everything she wants but a deep conservation connection. She ain't leaving her BF because she is simply using you to have someone talk to her. This is my two cents, sorry it may sound rude, but she shouldn't be leading you on if she has a bf. The reason she is, is because she is keeping you there to just to talk too. Meaning her bf fails to give her that conversation side of the relationship, so she seeks it from you. Use your own judgement. Her bf has her and what do you get? A measly phone conversation? Humans are very slick at being manipulative. Once again use your own judgement but this is my judgement, which won't be a famous opinion. This guy knows what he's talking about.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sacrilege Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Ask yourself if you would be okay with being with someone capable of cheating on their partner to be with you. I wouldn't. And the chatting for hours, etc. verges on that territory. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MusclePharm Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Sounds like you're a side ***** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pyrene Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 don't matta. however much she likes you she won't break up with her S/O for you. its fun though, but don't have it dwell on your mind Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GLASSJAW Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 being in a relationship, unto itself, is totally meaningless. people are far more dynamic and complex than is being suggested in this thread. because you've been in a relationship for five months means you can't break it off and pursue someone you're potentially a great match with, lest you'll wear a scarlet letter reading "SHE DID IT TO HIM, SHE'LL DO IT TO YOU"? if not five months, what about ten? what about two years? what if it's been a five year relationship, but they fell out of love after the third anniversary and are just simply too scared of breaking it off at this point? Maury-grade platitudes aren't going to help anyone here. there are far too many issues to consider. let's be honest about relationships: they rarely last, and they rarely last for a reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Offensive Threat Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 friendzone is for losers. admit it. you like her as more than that so tell her. either she dumps him to be with you or she cuts you loose. either way your better off than this pathetic deal. quit being a bi#@! and get on with it. WWJD? he woulda bailed on this deal on day one. really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarGirl Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 I think she probably has an interest to you, since it seems like she does flirt to you. But then again, she has a boyfriend... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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