lacrotix Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 My parents are insisting that I find a girlfriend. I’m not too interested, since I want to develop my career first. I’m currently 22 and Male. I’ll be graduating university soon. I spent most of my early undergraduate years in fixing up my broken self. Three years later, the worst is now behind me. I also notice that I am less interested in girls now. I guess there are less hormones in my body now. My parents say “it will be too late” if I do not find a girlfriend soon. What should I do? Are they right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-DLC- Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 You are an adult, tell them that. "It will be too late"? It's never too late to fall in love and it's also ok to be on your own if that's a path you choose. That's the key right there - it's YOUR choice/life. You don't "find" a girlfriend like you would a new car...it'll just happen. Do what you want to do, with all due respect to your parents who should only seek for you to be happy. I'm sure they only want the best for you, but they can't determine what that is...only you can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monty Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 My parents are insisting that I find a girlfriend. I’m not too interested, since I want to develop my career first. I’m currently 22 and Male. I’ll be graduating university soon. I spent most of my early undergraduate years in fixing up my broken self. Three years later, the worst is now behind me. I also notice that I am less interested in girls now. I guess there are less hormones in my body now. My parents say “it will be too late” if I do not find a girlfriend soon. What should I do? Are they right? Not sure what you went through, and I don't want to trivialize it. So I really hope this is true that the worst is indeed behind you. However, at 22 years old, you have a whole lot stressful times ahead of you. Jeez, what a debbie downer I am today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Heffy Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 You are an adult, tell them that. "It will be too late"? They are wrong...you don't "find" a girlfriend like you would a new car...it'll happen. Do what you want to do, with all due respect to your parents who should only seek for you to be happy. Bingo. What the hell is their rush anyway that 22 is "too late"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avelanch Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 They kinda have a point, the longer you wait the smaller the field of availiable prospects will be. But that assumes you'll want to settle down eventually (not everyone does) and you are an adult and if you don't feel like it you don't have to. I never had that issue since I met my future wife in freshman year of university, but my brother is 38 single, and without any prospects. it's kinda sad, to be honest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Heffy Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 They kinda have a point, the longer you wait the smaller the field of availiable prospects will be. Disagree, unless he's into older women. He can just as easily date 18 year olds at 25 as he can at 22. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avelanch Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Disagree, unless he's into older women. He can just as easily date 18 year olds at 25 as he can at 22. gross (for them, not him) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dral Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 You can buy a facebook girlfriend from Brazil for a couple hundred bucks... that should keep your parents off your back for a few years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Heffy Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Where's BananaMash when you need him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avelanch Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 You can buy a facebook girlfriend from Brazil for a couple hundred bucks... that should keep your parents off your back for a few years you could buy brazil for a couple hundred bucks.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
etsen3 Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Good luck OP, if it's a critical point in your career development it makes sense to focus on that for now. Besides, a good career makes it easier to attract a better woman in the future. At 22, you're certainly not the only one (male or female) who isn't anywhere close to settling down. That being said, it's a good idea to date casually or at least make an effort to interact with lots of women (if you don't already) so you don't go potato when the time actually comes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lacrotix Posted March 24, 2015 Author Share Posted March 24, 2015 Not sure what you went through... I wish to remain vauge about this. In short, I want to acknowledge that I had some time-consuming issues and was not mentally ready for any relationships in my early undergrad. They kinda have a point, the longer you wait the smaller the field of availiable prospects will be... my brother is 38 single, and without any prospects. it's kinda sad, to be honest. Shoot. I know university is a huge place, and I have met several girls in student clubs before. The problem is none of them tickle my fancy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deadendpath Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Who cares? It's your life, nobody elses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chalky Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 It doesn't matter what your age is, never settle on a partner that you do not love. My advice is to tell your parents what they want to hear and then follow your heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lacrotix Posted March 24, 2015 Author Share Posted March 24, 2015 That being said, it's a good idea to date casually or at least make an effort to interact with lots of women (if you don't already) so you don't go potato when the time actually comes. Sounds like good advice. Where would I start though? I have been in several student clubs, and few people attract me. I do have some female friends, but I would prefer them to remain as friends I can count on. I'm actually thinking that meeting people outside a university setting might be a better idea... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dogbyte Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Trying to force something like that seems dumb in my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazzle Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 I wish to remain vauge about this. In short, I want to acknowledge that I had some time-consuming issues and was not mentally ready for any relationships in my early undergrad. Shoot. I know university is a huge place, and I have met several girls in student clubs before. The problem is none of them tickle my fancy. As people have mentioned, as you get older, it is definitely a lot harder to meet people because you don't have as many places to meet people. Who knows, you might fall in love with someone at work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Heffy Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Sounds like good advice. Where would I start though? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRAZY_4_NAZZY Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Love and relationships always find themselves when you least expect them and are not actively searching for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avelanch Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 I wish to remain vauge about this. In short, I want to acknowledge that I had some time-consuming issues and was not mentally ready for any relationships in my early undergrad. Shoot. I know university is a huge place, and I have met several girls in student clubs before. The problem is none of them tickle my fancy. and that's perfectly fine, it's not like the well is dry. but I wouldn't go out of my way to focus on the career only. keep your prospects open and don't be afraid to at least go out every now and then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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