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Dazzle

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Sounds like she went on a couple of dates with you and realized she wasn't interested. She should have articulated that to you better, but it does get a little tricky when you start going out with someone you're already close with.

If you really want to salvage the friendship that badly, you probably could...but give up all hopes of sleeping with her right now. If you're holding out for the latter, it's not going to end well for you.

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Man, I may be the least qualified person to offer an opinion on this topic however I will attempt to do just that.

My advice is to walk away and move on. If someone is no longer interested in spending time with you, why on earth would you want to invest time with them? Life is too short to worry over what has happened and what may have being. Accept the experience as a lesson learned and you will be a better person for it. Focus on your own happiness and well being.

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Dude, it's honestly not worth it. Let her know you're dissapointed with how things ended up and leave it. As much as you think sending messages like that will help, they don't, because you'll likely just get antagonistic responses back (which will make you more upset), or she won't respond (which will make you WAY more upset). It's best to leave it civily, and that way in time when emotions have cooled off you will not have burned any bridges and you could actually have the potential to return to being friends (if that is really what you want). But don't expect that to happen.

I went through something relatively simialar, the girl was my best friend for almost 6 months before we started dating, we dated for a few months, and broke up in a very simialar fashion (right down to her lying to me about what was going on). I called her out and she basically just brushed it off and wouldn't discuss what was really going on with her. We agreed to going back to being "friends", but after about 2 weeks it was clear that their was just too much tension and emotion left over, so I made the decision to just cut her out of my life for good. As hard as it was, looking back it was without a doubt the best decision for myself.

It sucks, but that's life.

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No need to beat a dead relationship.

Go about your day.

Go home. Drink a six pack at least, shot gunning the first two.

if you do this be sure to put your phone/comp away so there are no drunk calls/texts/skype attempts.

If you are going to get this angry about letting things slide, you haven't let them slide- you just tried to not see things that bother you in a relationship. If something bothers you, you should tell her otherwise she will not know, she is not a mind reader. If you really liked her you should've told her. If you are going to be too busy to chat you need to tell her. Communication is key.

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I really want to wreck her morning. This situation has left me feeling so uneasy. I really want the truth from her.

And that's the wrong way to go about it. As much as you might want the truth, you want to do it in a hurtful way to make you feel better - or at least put her on the same level you are.

Maybe she's already feeling that way? You've said yourself it was a situation where you both were cautious because of your existing friendship but I've found that a tougher situation to deal with unless it happens organically. Clearly she had some trouble dealing with it as well and

You should just chalk it up to a life experience and anything you do say to her should be honest about what you think went wrong, but very much tactful and respectful and with the hopes of repairing the friendship - not tearing down anything that still remains.

Try starting with "I'm sorry" and consider what part you had in the relationship failing and maybe she'll be honest about her end as well.

EDIT: and agreed about probably waiting at least a few days to do it. Take some stock in your part of things and wait a little to make sure it won't turn into a hate fest.

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Do not send those messages.

Doing so will kill any chance of hooking up with her again ever.

Conversely, if that's the way things are going, you're still better off just walking away and not giving her the satisfaction. You'll feel much better off if you put your energy into someone new.

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Dazzle seems like a walking, talking friend zone... :blink:

i was being very delicate at ensuring that our friendship would remain intact

Haaaaa-hahahaha!

Anyway, coming to CDC ain't going to help. There are thousands and thousands of books dedicated on how to get men to understand women, dating, relationships, etc. I suggest reading some.

Here's a start:

http://www.amazon.ca/The-Manual-What-Women-Want/dp/1456494554

Cheers.

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I hope you were just thinking of those last 4 messages and didn't actually send them...

Don't be hung up on a couple of lies when it's early in the relationship.

Just treat her like the friend she was. Even if you don't ever date her again, might as well keep the friendship.

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I hope you were just thinking of those last 4 messages and didn't actually send them...

Don't be hung up on a couple of lies when it's early in the relationship.

Just treat her like the friend she was. Even if you don't ever date her again, might as well keep the friendship.

No. Not going to happen. Move on.

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Leave this one on the backburner for now. What presently exists between you is rife with confusion and misunderstanding. Your negative feelings and intention to ruin her day will not bring closure or satisfaction to you at this time. You'll end up looking like a vindictive, weak, and butthurt (now an Oxford approved term) guy, and may sully your reputation outside of whatever existed between you and this girl

Pay no mind to the issue and see how she reacts. Don't be desperate. Snap off a batch and go for a walk.

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Haaaaa-hahahaha!

Anyway, coming to CDC ain't going to help. There are thousands and thousands of books dedicated on how to get men to understand women, dating, relationships, etc. I suggest reading some.

Here's a start:

http://www.amazon.ca/The-Manual-What-Women-Want/dp/1456494554

Cheers.

There's enough free info out there that spending that much is unnecessary...

But I'm not going to be putting it up for public consumption. The op can pm me if he's interested though.

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