Hey man, chill out. You're not the only one who experiences bad connections and transit system waits.
The 41 always stops at Fraser and the 49 stops at Langara I think because of the high volume of ridership at both stops.. gives a chance for people to catch the bus.. i'm sure you'll be thankful for it one day when you're getting off a perpendicular connection and you're running late and the bus doesn't pull away before you get there.
Speaking of the 41/43, I've had transit cops hop on and check maybe once or twice now. You'd better be careful, I'm sure a bus driver will stop you sooner than later.