BananaMash Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I'm happy that my eyes finally died enough to need glasses for shallow reasons. I look better in them than without them. 1 Link to comment
Cramarossa Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 27 minutes ago, BananaMash said: I'm happy that my eyes finally died enough to need glasses for shallow reasons. I look better in them than without them. I love wearing glasses. Definitely feel you on the whole looking-better-glasses thing. 1 Link to comment
chon derry Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 1 hour ago, BananaMash said: I'm happy that my eyes finally died enough to need glasses for shallow reasons. I look better in them than without them. 2 Link to comment
c00kies Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 Ever since I got dumped two weeks ago, I have felt empty and look forward to nothing. Even when I laugh or smile, it feels empty. I can't even focus on anything, and it's going to screw up my studying for mid-terms and finals and I'm scared I'm going to fail and hit a downward spiral. Link to comment
Cramarossa Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 29 minutes ago, c00kies said: Ever since I got dumped two weeks ago, I have felt empty and look forward to nothing. Even when I laugh or smile, it feels empty. I can't even focus on anything, and it's going to screw up my studying for mid-terms and finals and I'm scared I'm going to fail and hit a downward spiral. Does your university have counseling services for students? If so, you should utilize them. Or maybe chat with a friend, instructor, or someone else there if you feel comfortable. It's tough when a relationship ends, but it doesn't have to ruin your life. I got dumped in my first term of college, conveniently right when the first waves of exams/essays were due. I was pretty devastated and felt really alone since I went to school away from friends/family/and even my ex. I told one of my TAs about it and he was really great. He obviously didn't let me turn assignments in late or anything, but just being able to tell someone what I was going through and have some sympathize and say they're sorry I'm dealing with it really helped. 1 Link to comment
riffraff Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 52 minutes ago, c00kies said: Ever since I got dumped two weeks ago, I have felt empty and look forward to nothing. Even when I laugh or smile, it feels empty. I can't even focus on anything, and it's going to screw up my studying for mid-terms and finals and I'm scared I'm going to fail and hit a downward spiral. Flip side: there are mega huge benefits to being single in college and in general. 1 Link to comment
Guest Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 22 hours ago, Cramarossa said: I love wearing glasses. Definitely feel you on the whole looking-better-glasses thing. I'm the total opposite; I hate wearing glasses. A pain to keep clean, it's annoying looking having to move your entire head to look up or down, hats/headsets are less comfortable...I could go on. Link to comment
Psylocke Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 I get more excited about the Leafs losing than our 'Nucks winning 2 Link to comment
c00kies Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 6 hours ago, riffraff said: Flip side: there are mega huge benefits to being single in college and in general. Haha, I'm not like that though :/ Link to comment
c00kies Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 6 hours ago, Cramarossa said: Does your university have counseling services for students? If so, you should utilize them. Or maybe chat with a friend, instructor, or someone else there if you feel comfortable. It's tough when a relationship ends, but it doesn't have to ruin your life. I got dumped in my first term of college, conveniently right when the first waves of exams/essays were due. I was pretty devastated and felt really alone since I went to school away from friends/family/and even my ex. I told one of my TAs about it and he was really great. He obviously didn't let me turn assignments in late or anything, but just being able to tell someone what I was going through and have some sympathize and say they're sorry I'm dealing with it really helped. Thanks. I've already talked with a couple people about it, which has eased the pain, but I'm still stuck with emptiness. Link to comment
Cramarossa Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 17 minutes ago, c00kies said: Thanks. I've already talked with a couple people about it, which has eased the pain, but I'm still stuck with emptiness. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope the days start to get better. Link to comment
Psylocke Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 8 hours ago, c00kies said: Ever since I got dumped two weeks ago, I have felt empty and look forward to nothing. Even when I laugh or smile, it feels empty. I can't even focus on anything, and it's going to screw up my studying for mid-terms and finals and I'm scared I'm going to fail and hit a downward spiral. The first few weeks to a month is the hardest. But keep busy, do things that you like, work on yourself, talk to close friends and family - it'll get better. Maybe try to study with a friend, as I found that being alone with my thoughts was the worst part. Link to comment
c00kies Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 7 minutes ago, Psylocke said: The first few weeks to a month is the hardest. But keep busy, do things that you like, work on yourself, talk to close friends and family - it'll get better. Maybe try to study with a friend, as I found that being alone with my thoughts was the worst part. I've been talking to family and friends, forcing myself to go out when I don't feel like it, but nothing feels fulfilling. I can only study alone, so it would just be an outing rather than a study break. Even then, a lot of my friends are her friends too, and we kept the relationship a secret from them. So that makes it very awkward too. Link to comment
Psylocke Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 13 minutes ago, c00kies said: I've been talking to family and friends, forcing myself to go out when I don't feel like it, but nothing feels fulfilling. I can only study alone, so it would just be an outing rather than a study break. Even then, a lot of my friends are her friends too, and we kept the relationship a secret from them. So that makes it very awkward too. Try going to the gym or some other form of exercise. It helps to clear your mind and boost endorphins. Link to comment
c00kies Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 19 minutes ago, Psylocke said: Try going to the gym or some other form of exercise. It helps to clear your mind and boost endorphins. I work out at home. I go on the treadmill and do curl-ups. I'm really out of ideas aside from maybe professional help, but I'm not going to be able to just make time out of nowhere, nor do I want to pay for it either :/ Link to comment
Psylocke Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 52 minutes ago, c00kies said: I work out at home. I go on the treadmill and do curl-ups. I'm really out of ideas aside from maybe professional help, but I'm not going to be able to just make time out of nowhere, nor do I want to pay for it either :/ Keep on doing that, and let yourself go through all the emotions. A breakup is a loss, so you have to allow yourself to go through the stages of grief (it actually feels more like a cycle or roller coaster rather than stages). Unfortunately, there's no timeline to this process, and sometimes you might find yourself feeling okay one day and then feel like you're moving backwards the next. However, it will get better with time, but you have to be patient. 1 Link to comment
BananaMash Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 1 hour ago, c00kies said: I work out at home. I go on the treadmill and do curl-ups. I'm really out of ideas aside from maybe professional help, but I'm not going to be able to just make time out of nowhere, nor do I want to pay for it either :/ Treat it like a death and allow yourself to grieve. Loss of a relationship can be an incredibly jarring thing. I was in a very good relationship last year, and it ended kind of suddenly (mutually, so slightly easier than what you're going through I'll admit) and it took me several months to recover fully. I poured my heart and energy into the things I like to do, even though at the time they didn't interest me even slightly. You need to be cognizant of the fact that while you're incredibly mentally defeated right now, still doing those things is important while you fight through the grieving process. Look for low-income mental health centers, too. The income cut off is incredibly high, and as long as you're honest about not being able to afford it they'll probably link you up with a cheap/free counsellor if you can find the time. Men's health centers often offer similar services. You don't know me well, but I'm also will to be an objective ear to listen if you need to get something out. My inbox is always open. 2 Link to comment
c00kies Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Thanks everyone. It means a lot to have all of your support. I love you all 3 Link to comment
ReggieBush Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 When I see girls walking down the street or in class, I stop and stare. Not because im a perv, because I am trying to visualize if she can be wifey. Is that wrong? Link to comment
Wilbur Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 19 hours ago, Psylocke said: I get more excited about the Leafs losing than our 'Nucks winning I picked Andersen in my pool in part so that when the Leafs won, it wouldn't be all negative. Link to comment
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