Hockey is a game, it's meant to be fun. Following a professional team should also be enjoyable. If you don't enjoy it, find another hobby or another team - life is too short to have a game/hobby make you miserable.
i think a few folks use it in the same way people use road rage. And they're given too much attention.
When I was at the prospects game last week the atmosphere was great, people were buzzed about the talent, lots of happy folks... i think thats most of the fan base.