confessions

[Cramarossa]

@smithers joe @nzan @Twilight Sparkle @ShakyWalton

 

I think the interview went well…they called all my references today...

[Lillooet_Hillbilly]

well after being scared out of my mind wondering what in the hell was wrong with me the past few months we are kind sorta sure it's my blood flow since my left side had a 20 point more difference then my right side caused by the way I learned to walk and a mole just on the right side of my junk. now the truly scary part is that if it gets fixed to have proper flow of blood i'm worried it might affect the size of something very important to me. I know I can afford to lose an inch and be average but is it really worth it?

 

[riffraff]

18 minutes ago, Lillooet_Hillbilly said:

well after being scared out of my mind wondering what in the hell was wrong with me the past few months we are kind sorta sure it's my blood flow since my left side had a 20 point more difference then my right side caused by the way I learned to walk and a mole just on the right side of my junk. now the truly scary part is that if it gets fixed to have proper flow of blood i'm worried it might affect the size of something very important to me. I know I can afford to lose an inch and be average but is it really worth it?

 

 

Tough call.  Tough call indeed.

[ShakyWalton]

58 minutes ago, Lillooet_Hillbilly said:

well after being scared out of my mind wondering what in the hell was wrong with me the past few months we are kind sorta sure it's my blood flow since my left side had a 20 point more difference then my right side caused by the way I learned to walk and a mole just on the right side of my junk. now the truly scary part is that if it gets fixed to have proper flow of blood i'm worried it might affect the size of something very important to me. I know I can afford to lose an inch and be average but is it really worth it?

 

Yes...I agree..very tough call...maybe with the proper flow you will gain a few.

[ShakyWalton]

1 hour ago, ThrustyPrusty89 said:

@smithers joe @nzan @Twilight Sparkle @ShakyWalton

 

I think the interview went well…they called all my references today...

ohhh....thats a very good sign that you are in the running....they may call you back for a follow up interview..

[Qwags]

1 hour ago, ThrustyPrusty89 said:

@smithers joe @nzan @Twilight Sparkle @ShakyWalton

 

I think the interview went well…they called all my references today...

If you didn't get the job, it's because you didn't use me as a reference.

[Cramarossa]

5 minutes ago, Qwags said:

If you didn't get the job, it's because you didn't use me as a reference.

I'm saving you for future court cases as my character witness. 

[Qwags]

24 minutes ago, ThrustyPrusty89 said:

I'm saving you for future court cases as my character witness. 

I charge $5,000 up front.

[Beeekz37]

Cheap and sounds legit.

[canuck204]

Recently split with "the love of my life". 

 

Relationship was definitely over and there was nothing left for us, but I don't regret it at all. Had a good run almost 8 years, but people change and life goes on.

 

$&!#ty part is we got a dog, and a condo together a year before we split.

 

Financial bull$&!# is forcing us to rent out the condo until our term is up to prevent a loss as it was our first mortgage and would lose all of our down payment and any equity if we sold, which is not allowing full disconnect of communication as there is $&!# to deal with from time to time.

 

Also our dog. It's my dog at the end of the day but am I evil if I draw a line and just keep my dog? She ultimately broke her commitment to the relationship plan we made when we got the dog and condo so that's where I form that opinion. She moved out of town and expected me to be fine with it and that's basically why we broke up. So now I send the dog out to her every weekend type of bull$&!#. I've been complying for now. 

 

I don't want to be with her that time has passed, but not being able to totally cut off everything with the condo and dog. The thought of her moving on does in fact hurt though. Which annoys me because I do not want to be with her. Da fuq. Anyways /rant

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Beeekz37]

Sounds like a similar situation my girlfriend was in. Other relationship lasted 6 years and for 2 years after it was shared custody with the dog (which ended not that long ago). The only nice thing about the shared custody was when the pup tore her ccl and had to have tplo surgery. Had we done it locally, it would have been over $5,000. Instead, she drove to Washington state university where they have a vet program. We got the surgery done for  $3,000, of which half was paid for by her ex (the only time I was happy about sharing the dog with him). 

 

We bought a house together a year and a half ago and I have always wondered what would happen if we split. Sounds like you are living the nightmare I fear. Sorry to hear, bud.

[riffraff]

2 hours ago, canuck204 said:

Recently split with "the love of my life". 

 

Relationship was definitely over and there was nothing left for us, but I don't regret it at all. Had a good run almost 8 years, but people change and life goes on.

 

$&!#ty part is we got a dog, and a condo together a year before we split.

 

Financial bull$&!# is forcing us to rent out the condo until our term is up to prevent a loss as it was our first mortgage and would lose all of our down payment and any equity if we sold, which is not allowing full disconnect of communication as there is $&!# to deal with from time to time.

 

Also our dog. It's my dog at the end of the day but am I evil if I draw a line and just keep my dog? She ultimately broke her commitment to the relationship plan we made when we got the dog and condo so that's where I form that opinion. She moved out of town and expected me to be fine with it and that's basically why we broke up. So now I send the dog out to her every weekend type of bull$&!#. I've been complying for now. 

 

I don't want to be with her that time has passed, but not being able to totally cut off everything with the condo and dog. The thought of her moving on does in fact hurt though. Which annoys me because I do not want to be with her. Da fuq. Anyways /rant

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Put on your pants.  Tell her it's your dog.  Keep the dog. End of story.

[canuck204]

1 minute ago, riffraff said:

 

Put on your pants.  Tell her it's your dog.  Keep the dog. End of story.

I have already established that. I am wondering if it is unreasonable to not let her see the dog. Do I put my foot down based on principle? The other issue is that I have to deal with her to some degree for the next 4 years until we can sell the condo. Is it worth the stink to stop letting her see the dog when I'll have her probably attempting to make my life miserable by doing that or should I continue status quo until I can actually cut ties with her after the condo sells... 

 

If I didnt have the condo to worry about I would have already taken the dog for good and gone on with my life but I'm kinda stuck for now so I dunno.

[canuck204]

1 hour ago, Beeekz37 said:

Sounds like a similar situation my girlfriend was in. Other relationship lasted 6 years and for 2 years after it was shared custody with the dog (which ended not that long ago). The only nice thing about the shared custody was when the pup tore her ccl and had to have tplo surgery. Had we done it locally, it would have been over $5,000. Instead, she drove to Washington state university where they have a vet program. We got the surgery done for  $3,000, of which half was paid for by her ex (the only time I was happy about sharing the dog with him). 

 

We bought a house together a year and a half ago and I have always wondered what would happen if we split. Sounds like you are living the nightmare I fear. Sorry to hear, bud.

It's been okay, as half of the expenses are paid by her, but other than that I am doing 100% of the work as landlord. It's complicated but im making do. Just the feels. Pretty resentful inside but it's probably smarter to just deal with it until I can sell the place. &^@# sake. lol

[ShakyWalton]

4 hours ago, canuck204 said:

It's been okay, as half of the expenses are paid by her, but other than that I am doing 100% of the work as landlord. It's complicated but im making do. Just the feels. Pretty resentful inside but it's probably smarter to just deal with it until I can sell the place. &^@# sake. lol

Nothing is forever when it comes to relationships..take it from me...I feel for you guys but it gets better.

[riffraff]

6 hours ago, canuck204 said:

I have already established that. I am wondering if it is unreasonable to not let her see the dog. Do I put my foot down based on principle? The other issue is that I have to deal with her to some degree for the next 4 years until we can sell the condo. Is it worth the stink to stop letting her see the dog when I'll have her probably attempting to make my life miserable by doing that or should I continue status quo until I can actually cut ties with her after the condo sells... 

 

If I didnt have the condo to worry about I would have already taken the dog for good and gone on with my life but I'm kinda stuck for now so I dunno.

 

The business tie is binding for sure.

 

i suppose, if you feel like it is just easier to "share" the dog then it may be the way to go.  Has she been upset by not seeing the dog?  How long have you both looked after the dog together?  You mentioned it was "your" dog.

 

i have a feelings she would probably get over it.

 

maybe explain to her that you're not comfortable with interacting with her outside of the condo deal. Tell her it hinders you in "moving on"....see how she reacts and go from there.

[canuck204]

12 hours ago, riffraff said:

 

The business tie is binding for sure.

 

i suppose, if you feel like it is just easier to "share" the dog then it may be the way to go.  Has she been upset by not seeing the dog?  How long have you both looked after the dog together?  You mentioned it was "your" dog.

 

i have a feelings she would probably get over it.

 

maybe explain to her that you're not comfortable with interacting with her outside of the condo deal. Tell her it hinders you in "moving on"....see how she reacts and go from there.

Well my stance is that we broke up because we no longer had the same idea on what our futures held. Mine is still the same as when we bought our condo and got the dog. Live in the city and blah blah. She broke her commitment to that plan which involves the dog. Long story short she took a job out of town and was living at her families cabin and when it was time to come home in the fall she gave up and decided to stay out there. That's where I decided that if push comes to shove its my dog. She can't just bail and expect the dog. I haven't moved anywhere and that seems reasonable to me. 

 

Again I am glad we broke up, we had a lot of issues over a long period of time that I am so glad I don't have to deal with anymore. The give and take part of the relationship was exhausting but I figured things would work themselves out and we'd be okay. Clearly not the case so I am ultimately just relieved. A lot of resentment and trust issues from past blips over the 8 years that I battled with but at the end of the day I am happy I didn't just stay quiet and go on miserably.

 

I tried to give her the whole condo but she didn't want the financial "burden" lol. Basically I am doing her a huge service by taking care of the condo. I will make money off the condo in 4 years but I would have been just as glad to sell it and break even. I had a way higher income but she made the down payment. So it would not have affected me by selling.

 

Just bull$&!#, total bull$&!#. I shouldn't care what she is up to at this point but there are still some feels when I think about her meeting someone new. Hate my brain most of the time. &^@#ing humans. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Gurn]

If your ex lives in a different city-just tell her the dog died and don't mention it again.? Make sure if you skype to talk that the dog is out of view- along with it's food dish and toys.

[riffraff]

1 hour ago, canuck204 said:

Well my stance is that we broke up because we no longer had the same idea on what our futures held. Mine is still the same as when we bought our condo and got the dog. Live in the city and blah blah. She broke her commitment to that plan which involves the dog. Long story short she took a job out of town and was living at her families cabin and when it was time to come home in the fall she gave up and decided to stay out there. That's where I decided that if push comes to shove its my dog. She can't just bail and expect the dog. I haven't moved anywhere and that seems reasonable to me. 

 

Again I am glad we broke up, we had a lot of issues over a long period of time that I am so glad I don't have to deal with anymore. The give and take part of the relationship was exhausting but I figured things would work themselves out and we'd be okay. Clearly not the case so I am ultimately just relieved. A lot of resentment and trust issues from past blips over the 8 years that I battled with but at the end of the day I am happy I didn't just stay quiet and go on miserably.

 

I tried to give her the whole condo but she didn't want the financial "burden" lol. Basically I am doing her a huge service by taking care of the condo. I will make money off the condo in 4 years but I would have been just as glad to sell it and break even. I had a way higher income but she made the down payment. So it would not have affected me by selling.

 

Just bull$&!#, total bull$&!#. I shouldn't care what she is up to at this point but there are still some feels when I think about her meeting someone new. Hate my brain most of the time. &^@#ing humans. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is your own answer the way I see it.

 

done.

[canuck204]

2 minutes ago, riffraff said:

This is your own answer the way I see it.

 

done.

I agree. BUTTTT I have to deal with her to some degree for the next 4 years whether I like it or not. It would probably cause a ton of drama/stress that could probably be avoided if I just leave it alone and comply for now. 

 

Haven't decided yet. You shouldn't stay with someone because of a dog or a condo but she expects to do whatever she wants and have everyone accomadate her. I'll most likely just take it day by day and if she starts giving me a hard time about anything I'll just deal with it then. Ugh lol.