New Study Says Men Are Not Getting Married Because of Internet Porn

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Talk about a flawed study. Might as well say global warming is causing the marriage rate to decline, lol.

There are many reasons why people aren't getting married....

1) relationship dynamics has changed over the years, common-law unions are more accepted nowadays.

2) the 18-35 people has lesser earning potential than previous generations, and being poor doesn't make you marriage material

3) back in the days, you knock someone up, you're forced to marry. nowadays, it's acceptable to raise a child alone

4) people are living longer, so people delay marriage to later life. I mean.... marriage rate for those under 16 have declined within the last 2 centuries too, lol.

5) there's more to do in life. back in the day, people saved up for maybe a few grand vacations in their lifetime. now it's annual trips to Maui/Cancun/Vegas/etc. people have different priorities now.

I agree. So many things factor in and because people are individuals and each has a different reason to marry or not, it's impossible to pinpoint it to one thing. Ridiculous.

Marriages used to be based on "'till death do us part" and people stayed in them for the long haul for the most part - it was often frowned upon not to. Considered a bit of a failure and a stigma was attached.

These days, with celebrity and tabloid marriages leading the way, the union of marriage isn't as forever as it once was. A disposable, immediate gratification society means people can easily do away with a marriage like they would an old car without a bat of an eye or a ripple. They don't seem to be taken as seriously (so many may adopt a "why bother?" attitude as a result?).

The times have changed and marriage is a formality that many do not feel is necessary to establish a union via a piece of paper or ceremony. With common law situations being given the weight they are in regard to financial decisions if the parties do go their separate ways, there is no stability in marriage that isn't offered by way of simply joining forces and living together. I think women once viewed marriage as security in a relationship but are now more independent and feel they can take care of themselves. They don't need men for "life partners" like they once did.

So many things factor in and porn is likely a small sliver in that. I mean, most men also desire the actual physical contact of another at some point so I'm sure porn doesn't replace women (or marriage) as this would indicate. Just fills the gaps.

Sure, the time men spend on the internet/porn is time NOT invested in connecting with a partner so it does likely contribute in that regard. But so many things are also involved that I just don't buy that "this is the reason".

[Hobble]

I'd much rather be married to a woman that I love than standing on a street corner in San Diego jacking it.

Watching porn is an instant gratification and stress reliever, but I don't see it in any way consider as a replacement for a relationship.

I can't speak for the Asian factor, as it may not be as predominant in Winnipeg, but I just started seeing a Filipino girl, and she said her mum wouldn't be in favour of her dating white guys (like me).

I can definitely say most men prefer women who are shorter or same height, while women prefer men who are taller.

[etsen3]

I'd much rather be married to a woman that I love than standing on a street corner in San Diego jacking it.

You know, there are plenty of other more logical, socially acceptable places to beat off than a street corner.

[Hobble]

You know, there are plenty of other more logical, socially acceptable places to beat off than a street corner.

I was making a joke in reference to South Park.

[jdatb]

I have Indian parents, and I can confirm the stereotyping. I don't know how bad it is up in Canada, but it's pretty terrible here in Tennessee, USA. Even though I have lived in Canada/USA for my whole life and my parents have lived here for 25+ years and are completely Westernized, people still view us differently. It's kinda weird.

[Höglander87]

Marriage is going down because people are far more hesitant towards commitment and compromise when instant gratification exists everywhere for every facet marriage can fulfill, porn being one of them.

Indirectly telling VIC to propose already? Lold

Make the move already bro

[Tortorella's Rant]

I don't know about that. But given divorce rates are around 50%, and given the guy always loses in the end if it doesn't work out - big, unnecessary risk.

[BananaMash]

Marriage is an outdated practice, just like monogamy. I'm in a polyamorous relation with Becky, Candice, Samantha, a cat, and my DVD copy of Big Buttz 29.

Seriously though, most people I'm friends with have no desire to be married even if they want a long term relationship with a single partner. I don't see the appeal in marriage either. I'm sure that could change with age, though.

[Baka]

Marriage is an outdated practice, just like monogamy. I'm in a polyamorous relation with Becky, Candice, Samantha, a cat, and my DVD copy of Big Buttz 29.

Seriously though, most people I'm friends with have no desire to be married even if they want a long term relationship with a single partner. I don't see the appeal in marriage either. I'm sure that could change with age, though.

I agree with you. Most of my friends (male and female) are also similar. I believe it's just mainly the more balanced independent culture change. Marriage simply doesn't serve a benefit to many people anymore.

But then again maybe my chronic violent masturbation struggles with internet porn is to blame for me not seeing the appeal and I am just unaware of it.

[Raoul Duke]

Its not about who does and doesn't watch porn. I meant that those who don't have a woman in their life are more likely to watch MORE porn. Simple really, if a man has a girlfriend/wife, then they're more likely to just have sex with them instead of porn.

You're obviously not married.

[Buddhas Hand]

Add in the Asian factor and you're pretty much screwed in North America. Other parts of the world, you're much more accepted (and/or less stigmatized).

I have Asian friends that strike out badly when they're here, but over in places like S. America/Europe/Asia, they do much much better.

Really tiny girls like taller guys - the ones that you've mentioned.

Have been watching this show for a while now , gives some insight into what chinese women want in/from a man.

[TheXFactor]

I'd much rather be married to a woman that I love than standing on a street corner in San Diego jacking it.

Watching porn is an instant gratification and stress reliever, but I don't see it in any way consider as a replacement for a relationship.

I can't speak for the Asian factor, as it may not be as predominant in Winnipeg, but I just started seeing a Filipino girl, and she said her mum wouldn't be in favour of her dating white guys (like me).

I can definitely say most men prefer women who are shorter or same height, while women prefer men who are taller.

Don't take this too harshly. A lot of older Filipinos want to stay pure blood.

Another thing, a Punjab friend of mine also once complained that most East Asian women don't date "Brown" people.

You're obviously not married.

Never said I was. Frankly, I lean towards "old school" marriage and i'm strict when it comes to trust.

Though i'm a bit confused on what people exactly mean by "open" relationships. Does this mean you can be in a committed girlfriend/boyfriend relationship with someone but they're allowed to fool around with other people? Might just be me but i'd get PO'd if I had a girlfriend who was going on dates with other guys.

[GLASSJAW]

I don't know about that. But given divorce rates are around 50%, and given the guy always loses in the end if it doesn't work out - big, unnecessary risk.

divorce rates have been declining for a long time. i'm pretty sure it's only about 30% in BC. the national average may be about 39-41%, but you have to consider that communities to the north, especially in the yukon, have sky-high divorce rates (60-70%)

it's decreasing in America, too -- http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&bicmp=AD&bicmlukp=WT.mc_id&bicmst=1409232722000&bicmet=1419773522000&_r=4&abt=0002&abg=0

I have no idea how old BananaMash and Florence actually are (their profiles say 20 & 24), but guarantee that their friends will sing a different tune in a few years. Nobody I knew in my early 20s was talking about marriage, but almost everyone I know now (in the 27-31 age bracket) is either married, engaged, or in a 'serious' long term relationship where marriage is actively discussed (to my knowledge)

I don't think it's an outdated practice at all...

[Monty]

divorce rates have been declining for a long time. i'm pretty sure it's only about 30% in BC. the national average may be about 39-41%, but you have to consider that communities to the north, especially in the yukon, have sky-high divorce rates (60-70%)

it's decreasing in America, too -- http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&bicmp=AD&bicmlukp=WT.mc_id&bicmst=1409232722000&bicmet=1419773522000&_r=4&abt=0002&abg=0

I have no idea how old BananaMash and Florence actually are (their profiles say 20 & 24), but guarantee that their friends will sing a different tune in a few years. Nobody I knew in my early 20s was talking about marriage, but almost everyone I know now (in the 27-31 age bracket) is either married, engaged, or in a 'serious' long term relationship where marriage is actively discussed (to my knowledge)

I don't think it's an outdated practice at all...

Agreed. At 32, my wife and I work with people who are either married or in a very serious long term relationship, nobody single. When we were in our early 20s with entry level jobs, we were around a lot more people trying to build up their net worth and begin their career, so a lot more single people with no interest in marriage.

But now, the only single person my wife and I are friends with, work with, or know, is a girl who is in her mid thirties, wants to be in a relationship, but any guy would be out of his mind to be with her.

Not outdated at all.

[Mr.DirtyDangles]

Have been watching this show for a while now , gives some insight into what chinese women want in/from a man.

Moving to China mate Those were some seriously pretty ladies.

[FramingDragon]

divorce rates have been declining for a long time. i'm pretty sure it's only about 30% in BC. the national average may be about 39-41%, but you have to consider that communities to the north, especially in the yukon, have sky-high divorce rates (60-70%)

it's decreasing in America, too -- http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&bicmp=AD&bicmlukp=WT.mc_id&bicmst=1409232722000&bicmet=1419773522000&_r=4&abt=0002&abg=0

I have no idea how old BananaMash and Florence actually are (their profiles say 20 & 24), but guarantee that their friends will sing a different tune in a few years. Nobody I knew in my early 20s was talking about marriage, but almost everyone I know now (in the 27-31 age bracket) is either married, engaged, or in a 'serious' long term relationship where marriage is actively discussed (to my knowledge)

I don't think it's an outdated practice at all...

Pretty much. If I had to come up with an analogy, it's like watching pre-pubescent tweens recoil at the thought of kissing a boy or a girl and insisting they'd never like that because it's so gross. Then puberty hits and the urges start to bubble up to the surface.

Fundamentally, marriage is two people promising to spend the rest of their lives and means together to (perhaps) one day raise their own. All relationships will lead to that moment where the people will have to decide if they trust each other to commit the rest of their lives. The legal documentations, paper work, and vows are absolutely peripheral to the emotional maturity that's required to even want to share your life with someone else.

It's not outdated (although perhaps the fanfare and legislation surrounding can be) but we as a species are for the most part monogamous, and we've come up with various forms of marriage to fit around that trait across cultures and eons. Your biological clock will begin to tick sooner or later. It's called growing up.

to add, I am in my early 20's and while I am not too intent on "settling down" and popping out babies after tying the knot, I am not scared at the prospect of getting married. I also don't see how it impedes your career unless you're insistent on having babies.

[BananaMash]

I have no idea how old BananaMash and Florence actually are (their profiles say 20 & 24), but guarantee that their friends will sing a different tune in a few years. Nobody I knew in my early 20s was talking about marriage, but almost everyone I know now (in the 27-31 age bracket) is either married, engaged, or in a 'serious' long term relationship where marriage is actively discussed (to my knowledge)

I don't think it's an outdated practice at all...

20 would be correct, and I did say:

I'm sure that could change with age, though.

I don't expect my, or their, thoughts/feelings on any of that to remain consistent. Things always change.

[TheXFactor]

divorce rates have been declining for a long time. i'm pretty sure it's only about 30% in BC. the national average may be about 39-41%, but you have to consider that communities to the north, especially in the yukon, have sky-high divorce rates (60-70%)

"Only" 30% LOL. Pretty high number IMO, almost a 1/3 chance a married couple will end up divorcing.

I'm interested in how long married couples who DID divorce stayed together.

[FramingDragon]

Not all but a big percentage of the women i have dated are only happy when in control, deciding what to do, watch, where to go. You go along with it acting like their lapdog to get laid and then get sick of it and bam you revolt and are accused of being controlling by trying to empower yourself because they have established their control as status quo.

Since refusing to play this role i have had zero luck with women for two years. Its reverse sexism. And im white 6'0 and not obese. Not that i agree with the asian thing i have met a few extremely hot white chicks who only date asian guys.

Have you considered your taste in women to be a problem if this is the kind you always end up being with?

[GLASSJAW]

"Only" 30% LOL. Pretty high number IMO, almost a 1/3 chance a married couple will end up divorcing.

I'm interested in how long married couples who DID divorce stayed together.

not that high when you factor in that marriage is 'supposed to be' a life-long commitment between two individuals who have complex emotions, desires, constantly shifting personalities, etc.? the fact that so many of them work out, to me, is the crazy part.

when you factor in how many emotionally immature people get married, or how many people get married for the 'wrong' reasons, then i think it seems pretty damn optimistic