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Want to have more sex? Men, stop helping with the chores

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Want to have more sex? Men, stop helping with the chores

By Eric Pfeiffer, Yahoo! News | The Sideshow – 3 hrs ago

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/want-more-sex-survey-says-stop-helping-chores-213917047.html

No good deed goes unpunished.

That famous phrase from Clare Booth Luce apparently applies to married men, according to a new study that finds men who help with the housework tend to have less sex.

The University of Washington research, published Wednesday in the American Sociological Review, suggests that heterosexual couples have more “sexual encounters” when each partner takes on traditional gender roles.

“Where the male is doing the male tasks and the female is doing the female tasks, those are the couples (who) are having more sex,” UW Associate Professor of Sociology and study co-author Julia Brines said in an interview with the Toronto Star.

You can find a PDF copy of the study at the bottom of Brines’ UW page.

The study had some other interesting findings. For instance, twice as much time is spent on “female” chores (34 hours) each week than on tasks more typically considered “male” (17 hours).

Couples who participated in the study, most of whom split some of the "female" chores, reported having about five “sexual encounters” each month on average. But in those homes where the man stuck to his 17 hours of dude duties, the couples had 1.6 more sexual encounters per month.

Do the math: The female in the relationship is taking on 68 more hours of housework per month than the male is in exchange for about two sexual encounters.

“If the activity is coded as masculine or feminine and it expresses ideas about what makes the opposite sex interesting, attractive, alluring, mysterious, that seems to be related to sexual activity and possibly sexual desire,” Brines tells the Star.

The data was based on information taken from 4,500 couples polled as part of the U.S. National Survey of Families and Households, conducted between 1992 and 1994.

More recent studies on married couples and sexuality roughly match up in terms of the number of sexual encounters. A 2005 study by the National Opinion Research Center found that married couples have sex on average about 66 times per year, slightly more than once per week. Interestingly, the survey’s director, Tom Smith, points out that despite all the humorous anecdotes suggesting otherwise, married couples have sex more frequently than their single counterparts.

But with all of the changes in gender roles, and presumably gender equality, over the past two decades, does the UW study’s information still hold up?

It does, according to Brines.

“It’s not what it was 50 years ago; there was a lot of change in the division of household labor in the '70s,” Brines tells the Star. “But the pace of change started to slow down in the '80s, and by the mid-1990s it kind of remained stuck and you’re pretty much at the same point.”

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My wife wasn't nearly as thrilled to read this as I was.

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"Idle hands are the devil's workshop"?...All this spare time gives mankind moments to ponder his next conquest.

Meanwhile, the missus is too tired to protest much. I'll pay close attn as I attempt to further research this study; try to establish/differentiate cause/effect.

Somewhat related: It's also been established(lost the link!) that countries where men have larger tallywackers, are underperforming in eonomic-productivity, generally maintaining lower per capita incomes. Hmm...

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Maybe those are just the lucky guys who get the horny girls that do more work.

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Reminds me of that old saying... I decided to be celibate, so I got married.

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'You're a bad cook and you can't clean worth a damn. Let's do it.'

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'You're a bad cook and you can't clean worth a damn. Let's do it.'

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You don't know how right you are, I believe wives have a desire to receive acknowledgement from the husband and if the husband isn't making his wife feel adequate in the cooking/cleaning department she compensates in the bedroom, at least this is how it is for my wife.

Women are easy, if you know what you're doing.

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Really...

I would love to see your wife agree with that. Why not show her your post and have her post a comment for us all in regards. I'm curious to see who really runs the house lol

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Of course she's going to disagree with it, no women like to admit that they are not the alpha-spouse.

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Depends on the marriage and depends on the woman. All I can say is that ever since I started making dinner and cleaning the kitchen, bedroom, and living room, my wife and I have been having a lot more fun.

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I have noticed two things since I have started doing all the cooking and cleaning:

1) I eat what I want when I want

2) I now sit down to pee ..

That is all ..

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I have noticed two things since I have started doing all the cooking and cleaning:

1) I eat what I want when I want

2) I now sit down to pee ..

That is all ..

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Keep those pillow pets busy doing one thing or another!

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I dont know how i feel about this... Im living proof that this is both true and false.

Ive been with my wife for 15 years...

We DO have an old fashioned relationship (i go to work, she stays home and cleans/takes care of high needs foster children)

in regards to sex; If i get up and do housework, she feels bad that i had to do it (not sure why) and pays me back in sex (or home made desert). If i dont do it and ask what she did that day... she feels bad and pays me in sex...

of course that is pretty obtuse and i doubt she is thinking "ill pay him back with sex", but we as men are pretty simple creatures... we want food, respect and sex. I think the women that keep their men have figured this out.

If we both had jobs, wed both do chores and perhaps that would make her a bit more tired or unconcerned with my food, respect, sex "needs" and i cant say id blame her.

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How old were these couples they chose for the study, 50 + ?

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Wow, complete opposite. Women appreciate when a man puts in effort to make it easier on her. Even if it isn't intentional, she notices.

Whenever I do the dishes or laundry my wife notices that I'm more attractive to her but doesn't know why..

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