Have you ever been betrayed? Tell us about it.

[DarthMelvin]

In you life time so far...

 

Have you ever been betrayed by a Family member, Friend,  Co-Worker or in general? Not looking for anything to deadly but you will know after you read mine. 

 

How did it affect you?

 

Did you get revenge?

 

Or Did you let it Ride (Forgiven or Forgotten)?

 

TYIA for sharing. 

 

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My First life betrayal.

 

In grade 8 I was in shop class. There were these electrical extensions hanging from the ceiling. Of course the teacher stated explicitly that no one should ever swing from these extensions WHAT SO EVER~!

 

And if you know me from these forums...well!

 

The teacher left the class for some reason and of course... it was my time to shine. I jumped up and ran to the front of the class and came back flying through air grabbing one of the extensions... I swung for one loop and as I came back the cord ripped from the ceiling. I flew backwards to the floor, landing on my side  in the middle of the classroom.  The class filled with gasps, laughter and a few OMGs. I jumped up quick and my buddy was laughing his butt off and told me I was in deep shiz. I knew it too. The cord laid on the floor like a dead snake and I panicked.  I shushed everyone. I grabbed the cord and went to the class window and threw it out then ran back to my seat. 

 

After a few minutes, which seemed like eternity. One of the girls told me I have tell the teacher. I looked at her with an eye roll and kept my mouth shut. 

 

Then from the front of the class, one of the girls got up and walked out of the class. It was my crush bro's... MY CRUSH. And she was crushing on me over the summer. and we hung out a few times with other friends.  We went swimming, man hunt, baseball... all the cool stuff that 80s kids would do... A few minutes more passed and it was like the teacher wasn't coming back. But he did.

 

The teacher popped his head into the class and looked at the ceiling where the extension once hung.  He looked at me dead in my eyes and called me out of class with out a word, but a finger gesture...The class ohh and awwed as I walked to the door. As I got closer to the door the girl came back in...she didn't even look me. My crush was a rat. 

 

I got sent home for the day along with school clean up for a month. 

 

So with that... I see a rat I think of her. I see a cord hanging from a ceiling I think of her. I do any type of garbage pick up of the floor I think of her. No not really lol... I laugh about it now... but back then I felt betrayed..I forgave but never forgot. I never said hi to her ever over the years. But I never brought it up either. I think the school knew she was a rat. But I never dug to deep on it. 

 

What you got?

 

 

Edited August 31, 2019 by DarthMelvin

[Master 112]

Yes, but it's too painful to share.

[Baer.]

I've had friends steal from me for drug money. I've also had friends straight up ghost me and never talk to them again. But I wouldn't count those as betrayals. I have about 3 friends and my girlfriend and I don't really socialize with anybody else, so it's hard to be betrayed if you have nobody to betray you

 

oh yeah my uncle disenfranchised my grandmother so she has never met two of her grandchildren. I have no idea why, I don't know how anybody could do that to their own mother. His wife is a %^&.

[riffraff]

[luckylager]

Well, when I was 16 one of my best friends was shot in the head by another friend of mine.

It broke me.

 

I've never really felt betrayed since

[DarthMelvin]

8 hours ago, luckylager said:

Well, when I was 16 one of my best friends was shot in the head by another friend of mine.

It broke me.

 

I've never really felt betrayed since

Dang bro. Condolences.

[luckylager]

1 hour ago, DarthMelvin said:

Dang bro. Condolences.

Was a long time ago man. No condolences necessary.

 

You're the guy asking for stories. It's a good idea for thread, I hope others spill their guts too.

 

 

[Art Vandelay]

My brother needed money to finish a job. Materials, saw blades, gas etc. I knew it was a bad idea, but I felt bad for the people who had already paid him to complete the thing. Also the home owners who just wanted the thing done. Got him to promise and everything that he was going to use the money to finish the job.

 

He went on a 7 day coke binge about 15 minutes after I gave him the money. I ended up paying someone else to finish the job for him.

 

Family is the only real thing you got when you’re an alcoholic. Unfortunetly they suffer a lot because of it. I wasn’t exactly betrayed. But without context, this was pretty messed up thing to do.

 

 

Edit: I didn’t really answer OP’s questions.

 

I didn’t do anything about it. No revenge. The only thing I could/can do is try and get him sober. He’s what you call a disfuctional alcoholic.  

Edited September 1, 2019 by Art Vandelay

[Nuxfanabroad]

On 8/31/2019 at 12:47 PM, Baer. said:

 

 

oh yeah my uncle disenfranchised my grandmother so she has never met two of her grandchildren. I have no idea why, I don't know how anybody could do that to their own mother. His wife is a %^&.

Regarding families that shatter/break down

 

- on the details of elder generations, you might never get an honest account(the straight goods)

- Women or men can be socio/psycho paths & destroy things. A title(Mother, Father, Whomever...) doesn't assure they're a paragon of virtue

- There ARE examples of toxic relationships, that will kill a person eventually(stress, & all it encompasses). Sometimes the only answer is to walk away

 

I don't know if any of these points pertain to your own situation. Personally I've gone through such a disaster. The best answer was to move on & live abroad.

 

Have stated it here before, in my family there were suicides, addictions, violence & mendacious manipulation. The best decision I (prob ever) made was to leave in my mid-20's.

 

I loved Canada, but I would do it all(2 decades in Japan) again..even sooner, if I had a 2nd chance!

[Dazzle]

11 hours ago, luckylager said:

Well, when I was 16 one of my best friends was shot in the head by another friend of mine.

It broke me.

 

I've never really felt betrayed since

That is a f-d up story.

[BrockBoester]

Yeah

 

They told me they'd hold me a copy of Super Smash Bros. the first day the N64 came out, and when I went to pick up my N64 they "didn't have one on hold" for me. Luckily I managed to get one the next day, but my dreams were nearly shattered.

[soda]

Couple of years ago in early April a lower ranked collegue told me to call back a potential new client Ellie Phant. After an awkward minute or two the person whom took my call explained they were the zoo and it was indeed the 1st. 

[Baer.]

7 hours ago, Nuxfanabroad said:

Regarding families that shatter/break down

 

- on the details of elder generations, you might never get an honest account(the straight goods)

- Women or men can be socio/psycho paths & destroy things. A title(Mother, Father, Whomever...) doesn't assure they're a paragon of virtue

- There ARE examples of toxic relationships, that will kill a person eventually(stress, & all it encompasses). Sometimes the only answer is to walk away

 

I don't know if any of these points pertain to your own situation. Personally I've gone through such a disaster. The best answer was to move on & live abroad.

 

Have stated it here before, in my family there were suicides, addictions, violence & mendacious manipulation. The best decision I (prob ever) made was to leave in my mid-20's.

 

I loved Canada, but I would do it all(2 decades in Japan) again..even sooner, if I had a 2nd chance!

From what I heard of the situation, it was a stupid reason and his wife encouraged him to do it. I don't agree with it and I've talked to them maybe twice since. When my grandpa died, he declared himself only child. Obviously he is not since he is my uncle, he wanted sole inheritance. I think it's just the person he is. Family never meant anything to him.

[Alflives]

When I was 14 (On the farm) I had this one cow, Bess.  She was such a sweetheart, and an extra special cow.  Every morning I woke up early (with a smile) because I knew she’d be in her stall just waiting for me to milk her.  We had a glorious summer of early morning milking.  I could tell she really liked how I handled her utter.  I thought our special bond would last forever.  That was until we got a new hand, Raul.  Yes ... Raul, who spoke Spanish.  (And had big strong hands, and puppy dog brown eyes).  It was a sad day for me.  One I will never forget.  I went out to enjoy a good milking with Bess.  Then I saw a site I will forget.  Bess was in her stall, and she had this glow about her face.  Standing next to her was Raul.  He was speaking to Bess in Spanish, gently stroking her nose, and holding a full pail of fresh milk.  The site of Bess, with another man caressing her crushed me.  From that moment I stopped drinking milk, and (yes) I found relief in SCOTCH.  

[Master 112]

7 hours ago, BrockBoester said:

Yeah

 

They told me they'd hold me a copy of Super Smash Bros. the first day the N64 came out, and when I went to pick up my N64 they "didn't have one on hold" for me. Luckily I managed to get one the next day, but my dreams were nearly shattered.

legit thought you were like 14

[Hairy Kneel]

Grade 9 horticulture class, all students each had a row of onions growing, me, I had the biggest freakin' onion in the whole class.

Dam thing made me proud to be a grade 9. until this one day I got to class.

As I proceeded to go weed my row, upon arrival, I could see my onion was gone! Shocked beyond belief, I panicked and began looking around for my onion!

There it was, propped up in another kids row. As I inspected closer I could see the cut roots. There was dried soil pushed haphazardly around the bottom of my onion to disguise it as theirs, I lifted it up and could see the straight cut of the roots. 

Just then the kid came screaming across the garden and raised his hoe, luckily I had my hoe with me, I don't think I've ever seen two hoe's bang together so hard.

(That's something you only see in the movies!) The Japanese teacher Mr Kawasachi  finally intervened and we were never allowed to use hoe's ever again. 

Betrayal Grade 9

[smithers joe]

3 minutes ago, Hairy Kneel said:

Grade 9 horticulture class, all students each had a row of onions growing, me, I had the biggest freakin' onion in the whole class.

Dam thing made me proud to be a grade 9. until this one day I got to class.

As I proceeded to go weed my row, upon arrival, I could see my onion was gone! Shocked beyond belief, I panicked and began looking around for my onion!

There it was, propped up in another kids row. As I inspected closer I could see the cut roots. There was dried soil pushed haphazardly around the bottom of my onion to disguise it as theirs, I lifted it up and could see the straight cut of the roots. 

Just then the kid came screaming across the garden and raised his hoe, luckily I had my hoe with me, I don't think I've ever seen two hoe's bang together so hard.

(That's something you only see in the movies!) The Japanese teacher Mr Kawasachi  finally intervened and we were never allowed to use hoe's ever again. 

Betrayal Grade 9

so, he was a dirty hoe?

[Alflives]

10 minutes ago, Hairy Kneel said:

Grade 9 horticulture class, all students each had a row of onions growing, me, I had the biggest freakin' onion in the whole class.

Dam thing made me proud to be a grade 9. until this one day I got to class.

As I proceeded to go weed my row, upon arrival, I could see my onion was gone! Shocked beyond belief, I panicked and began looking around for my onion!

There it was, propped up in another kids row. As I inspected closer I could see the cut roots. There was dried soil pushed haphazardly around the bottom of my onion to disguise it as theirs, I lifted it up and could see the straight cut of the roots. 

Just then the kid came screaming across the garden and raised his hoe, luckily I had my hoe with me, I don't think I've ever seen two hoe's bang together so hard.

(That's something you only see in the movies!) The Japanese teacher Mr Kawasachi  finally intervened and we were never allowed to use hoe's ever again. 

Betrayal Grade 9

Being so close to your onion being cut like that it must have been hard to hold back the tears.  

[-DLC-]

I've had an issue with female friends in the past and, early on, became a bit of a tomboy ("she can throw a mean spiral") as a result.

 

Mostly, I had a really popular/cute boyfriend (whom I later married) that all the girls swooned over.  So they'd get close to me, mostly, to get close to him.  Over time, it got tiring and I grew to not trust many females as a result.  That was my own issue, but it was created out of people who weren't genuine or true "friends".   I've remained pretty closed off and was mostly friends with guys over the years....what you see is what you get.  No game playing.

 

Women People can be evil.  So much manipulation can be involved and it's sad that friendships aren't always at face value but, at times, can be based on someone wanting something from someone else.  Even later on in life...friends sometimes have agendas beyond just wanting to share time as friends together.  I ain't got time for it.  I'm a bit of a loner (by choice ... too much to do, too little time to do it in) and do what I do when I want to do it.  So establishing boundaries was essential for me as friends started to be controlling and demanding.  The friends I have now (and they're good ones) understand me and don't expect me to be something I'm not.  They take me "as is".

 

I spent most of my younger days watching sports and water skiing with a boat full of guys.  When they brought along "girlfriends" it always went down the same path, as they flirted, heavily, with my guy.  Needed bear spray.  I never brought drama or issues to the group ... I was there to ski/have fun but it always got more complicated when the bimbos showed up.   

[Tre Mac]

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